Do you also, sometimes, feel bad for the third party?

The third party being those of which some of us talk about when we ask a question regarding a relationship problem, a row with a colleague, that nasty family member, etc.?
In real life we sometimes get to hear from a friend, spouse, family member, a story about someone who behaved like an ass hat or told a big lie about X or Y, and then, later, we (sometimes) get to hear the version of said person themselves.
Which can make us change our position on the matter altogether.
Here, on Fluther, or any other (social) internet site, we don’t have that possibility (the third parties, most probably are not aware that they are subjects of discussion).
Do you take that in consideration when you answer a question like that?
Do you, when you have a question like that, word it in a way that also the third party’s view gets reflected?
What is your view on it, if you please?