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Is your spouse registered in a different political party than you, and does it cause issues between you?

Asked by RANGIEBABY (2097points) August 1st, 2010

I was married to a man that was very political, in one party and I in another. However, I never let him know that. I knew it would cause huge issues in not only our marriage, but his family.

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Coloma's avatar

I have no spouse and I am apolitical.
I am liberally minded but do not, nor have I ever, cast a vote.

Although I am militant about NOT dating anyone that is politically militant, sooo…guess I am disqualified. lol

perspicacious's avatar

You were married to someone who didn’t know your political lean? I don’t see why it would have to cause a problem, but I also don’t think he knew you very well.


@perspicacious He was from a very prominent family and he was always right. I was good at staying away from political conversations. We are not married anymore. Need I say more?

Coloma's avatar


Yeesh…what a nightmare! ( shiver) lol

downtide's avatar

My partner and I both share the same political views – left and liberal. I’m not registered with any political party because there isn’t one in the UK that ticks all the boxes for me.

jerv's avatar

I am more Conservative than my wife, but that just leads to deep, interesting discussions. It doesn’t cause any problems.

augustlan's avatar

I’ve always been a Democrat, and a pretty passionate one at that. My husband is a registered Republican, but really he is a Libertarian. It makes for quite lively debate from time to time, but oddly we agree on more than we disagree on.

The only time it really caused conflict was during the last election. He was planning to vote for McCain. I would have been OK with that (though I would have been extremely upset if Palin got that close to the presidency). However, he was going to do so based on faulty reasoning and sketchy ‘evidence’, and that I could not abide. We fought about it a number of times, and came to an agreement. We would not speak of it again for a little while, and then we’d have one, and only one, more discussion on the subject at a later date.

I spent three weeks gathering facts and figures from unbiased sources (with the help of the jellies), and presented him with sound reasoning and irrefutable evidence. We had a serious conversation that lasted about two hours. In the end, he voted for Obama.

kevbo's avatar

My gf is a Republican and when I met her I was probably more Green/progressive than anything else. It took me while to understand where her Republican leanings came from, but once I understood that her ideology was rooted mostly in specific personal experiences working in healthcare, it became much easier for me to understand her perspective and intention. It helps to know that hers is mainly a fiscal perspective. She’s not at all a DOMA supporter or anything like that.

The amusing/annoying thing is that she keeps labeling me a Democrat even though I have expressed to her on more than one occasion that I basically believe both major parties are corporate lapdogs, not to mention totally evil. She just doesn’t think in third party terms.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I’m a registered Republican and my husband has never voted a day in his life.
It doesn’t cause us problems, but sometimes I still can’t wrap my head around it.

tranquilsea's avatar

I don’t lean one way or another. I listen to the party platforms and then vote for the lessor of evils. My husband depends on my research so he always ends up voting the same way I do.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I don’t know what party he’s registered with or how he votes, I haven’t asked. He is quite a bit more conservative than I am, for sure. If it came up that we were of different parties then I feel he’d be fine with it, I know I’m fine where he stands. Our families are similar enough in background, even relgious bents that he and I only a few degrees away of each other rather than on opposite ends.

mollypop51797's avatar

My husband’s a republican, and I’m a democrat. We share our views, without feuding, and respect one another’s opinion. It’s not that important to us in our relationship, socially, so we don’t usually end up quarreling.

woodcutter's avatar

I got so fed up with the political process that I changed parties to Independent mainly so as to not have to vote in the mid terms. Both parties are dogs. My wife says I’m throwing away my opportunity to vote….bleh. I was Dem like she is but as I got older and more mature my thoughts changed more towards centrist/ right. I can see signs of her changing too as she tends to agree with my point of view more often than before. I tend to watch and listen to whats happening politically to make my decisions and she just takes a blind leap of faith and tows the party line.

evandad's avatar

It sounds like you blame the political differences you had for your breakup in your response to @perspicacious, but you never talked about them. I guess that silence was deafening. I have a lady who is pretty much the opposite of me in many ways, but we manage to see the person beyond those.

vamtire's avatar

In taiwan they divorce,taiwan is a bit crazy about politics,there is even violence between taiwan’s political parties

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