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mycatsnameismaceo's avatar

Would your relationship survive if your s/o became famous?

Asked by mycatsnameismaceo (71points) August 4th, 2010

This question is really meant for those of you that appreciate a quiet lifestyle, and have no desire to become known. (but anyone can answer, of course)

If you have been with your s/o for many years, then they become known for the work they do, would it change your relationship?

Can a relationship like this work? Your s/o gets fans that constantly want his/her attention, he/she may have a stalker, some people want to see/hear from you since you are the s/o, and all you want is to go hide in a cabin far far away.

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Jude's avatar

Too much work and too much of a disruption. Not interested.

Just being honest.

perspicacious's avatar

Yes, I’m pretty good at staying in the background.

Megan64's avatar

Yes, as long as he takes his mom to openings. I would just want the lifestyle, not the hassle of people hounding me and my family. I’m pretty quiet and private, and wouldn’t want that to change.

YARNLADY's avatar

He already is in certain circles, and it hasn’t hurt a bit.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I think my SO will become more known as more people get to know his music – I don’t think it’ll matter to me and I know it won’t matter to him – we both hope to get a laugh off groupies, if he has any.

mycatsnameismaceo's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I asked this question because my s/o is starting to get fans. We both laugh at the “super fan” that he has right now, but this person is starting to get creepy, in a stalkerish kind of way, and I wonder how it will be when he has more fans. I guess more laughs for us, right?

ducky_dnl's avatar

I doubt it would work, but you can’t judge it until you’re in a situation like that. I want a quiet life in a little cottage in the woods right next to a lake. I want people to ignore me in the future like they do me now. I’m not used to much attention, so a lot of attention from a lot of different people would scare and upset me. If I truly loved him though, I’d travel any day and anywhere for him.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@mycatsnameismaceo I suppose one never knows – people do get crazy.

Jeruba's avatar

Yes. He has been a celebrity in a small way. It never went to his head. I was the one who helped him keep things in perspective, though. We were both glad when it was over.

[Edit] I’ve been a celebrity on about the same scale myself, so I knew what it was like. I think that helped. It didn’t go to my head either (and if it had, he’d have been right there to anchor me to reality).

ZEPHYRA's avatar

No, no, I would congratulate him and quietly slip away, not enough space in the limelight for both.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

Probably wouldn’t work. My father, grandfather and great-uncle were moderately famous; I hated the attention. If J were to become famous, I’d likely hide. I’ve spent my life avoiding publicity.

NaturallyMe's avatar

Of course i’ll stay with him. Nothing much else other than infidelity or some other huge problem causing us to not get along anymore will make me want to leave him.

downtide's avatar

If it was the sort of fame that had paparazzi clicking cameras at the gate, then no. I would be desperately unhappy living like that. If it was just a sort of “well-known in his field”, that would be fine. But if I’m going to answer the fan-mail, I better get paid for it.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

I prefer to be the farmer “outstanding in my field”~.

ucme's avatar

Yeah i’d be her agent & demand 20% of everything….......show me the moneyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!!

Frenchfry's avatar

I would love it…. Sounds exciting.
I could hire me a cute bodyguard .

john65pennington's avatar

After 44 years married to the same woman, yes, we would make it. matter of fact, i would be her promoter and we would make money together, hand over fist. yahoo!

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