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Women: Would you date an ob/gyn?

Asked by MyNewtBoobs (19026points) August 20th, 2010

I’ve heard women say that they would never date a gynecologist, but I’ve never heard why, and I have no clue what the issue would be – at least, not any issues that wouldn’t be true of all other doctors. On the other hand, I’ve heard a couple women say they only date ob/gyn’s. So would you? Why?

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wgallios's avatar

You’d save money

asmonet's avatar

Wouldn’t bother me.

Mom2BDec2010's avatar

I wouldn’t. I would just feel weird about it. There always looking at other girls stuff, haha. & for some odd reason I’d think they were a pervert. Not saying all of them are, but thats what I think.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I would. Why not?

rooeytoo's avatar

I’ve often wondered what motivates a male to go into that particular specialty but I have never thought about dating one. Every one I have ever known was married, but nonetheless, some of them were definitely strange people. And I can’t tell you exactly what I mean by strange, just that I would receive unpleasant vibes from them whether it was a social or business meeting.

Aster's avatar

Sure! Then I could get another shrimp cocktail !

asmonet's avatar

@rooeytoo I actually ask my dude gyno’s why they are gynecologists. My last one explained that his mother had died of ovarian cancer. Good enough reason for me, he said they get asked a lot.

marinelife's avatar

I can’t see any issue.

gorillapaws's avatar

@rooeytoo I would imagine there’s probably an excitement in the delivery room that really can’t be matched anywhere else on the planet. Most surgeries are on the MD’s terms, but with a natural birth, the baby is in charge and everyone else is along for the ride. The thought of going through that one day is absolutely terrifying, but I can imagine that some people really love that experience.

perspicacious's avatar

I’ve never met one that I would consider date material.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@perspicacious Did the job play a role in that, or just that you met a bunch of people who weren’t date material who happened to be gynos?

perspicacious's avatar

@papayalily—I don’t really know for sure. I just know I’ve met and been asked out by OB/GYN doctors but they were never anyone I wanted to date. To be honest, I’ve never wanted to go out with anyone in that profession who asked. Maybe I don’t find scientists fun.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@perspicacious I have a “no doctors” dating rule, but it’s all doctors, not just gynos.

keobooks's avatar

I don’t think I’d like to date any doctor—especially OBGYN— who was on call. Babies have their own schedules and I don’t think I’d like to know that all my plans with this person were tentative because you’d never know when one of his patients was going to pop.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@keobooks Doctors have call their entire careers, regardless of specialty. They usually work out a rotation with other doctors (usually in the same practice, but if they are a solo practitioner, it might be with other solo practitioners). One of the most common is one night a week, plus one weekend (Friday at 5 to Monday at 8) a month.

JLeslie's avatar

I would be fine dating a OBGYN. It would be preferrable if they were just GYN.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@JLeslie What would be the difference for you (in terms of how that would impact your interest in them, not the technical difference between the two).
What about just an OB?

JLeslie's avatar

@papayalily Only that OB’s get called in more often for emergencies, labor, etc. I was simply commenting on the inconvenience of being on call. It has nothing to do with a comfort level, more a practical level of the obligations an OB deals with.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@JLeslie Ah. Yeah, call sucks ass.

keobooks's avatar

@papayalily OBs are on call a lot more than other MDs. For instance, my current OB is officially “on call” only once a week or so, but when I give birth, she’s going to be there even if it’s not her night, unless she’s already in with another patient who is giving birth. My baby isn’t going to wait until her night on call.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@keobooks That nice that she structures her call that way. I know some OBs don’t do it that way. I’m personally used to the surgeon’s call schedule, which is a lot like the OB’s – even when they’re not on call, if it’s the right patient or situation, they really are on call.

Seaofclouds's avatar

I never really thought about it. I probably would have dated one when I was single.

rooeytoo's avatar

@asmonet – well that is a pretty noble reason, can’t argue with that!

@gorillapaws – I have seen lots of pups, calves, etc born and it was pretty exciting. I don’t personally have any great desire to watch a human being born. Animals do it without all the screaming, hehehe.

Ludy's avatar

I wouldn’t , i would feel self conscious about showing him my private parts :P

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@Ludy What would you be self conscious about?

Neizvestnaya's avatar

I would and wouldn’t be freaked out over the fact he looks at other vaginas in a professional capacity ;)

Ludy's avatar

that he might compare mine or him telling me that he has seen better, i don’t know :(

Monica987's avatar

Sure why not! He could even deliver your children. If you want to think of it a different way…. would you date a drawings class life model?

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@Monica987 He’s legally not allowed to deliver your children as a physician – although, as the father, he can (but wouldn’t unless he absolutely had to). What does the art class model have to do with anything?

Monica987's avatar

Oh, thanks for the clarification, I thought maybe there would be a loop hole with my first statement.

An art class model shows everyone their goods for the sake of art. An ob/gyn gets to see the goods of copious amounts of women for the sake of health and science. My point is that it really doesn’t matter if you date an ob/gyn, a career does not make the person; a job is a means to an end.

If I was a nude model or a urologist I would hope that the guy dated didn’t care. In conclusion one’s professional shouldn’t matter, if it is a morally sound one in your own mind.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@Monica987 Being a doctor isn’t a job that pays, it’s a career that requires at least 13 years of your life not making any money, and then tons and tons of time until the day you retire. You don’t become a doctor unless you really, really want to.

Monica987's avatar

I personally believe, the career of a physician most certainly is a job that pays, which, like you said requires years of study in exchange for a secure profession and income.

The same statement you just said could be applied to the careers of successful musicians, actors, or artists and some of these professionals never retire and never have the same job security.

When dating someone there are factors to consider above the persons career/job, because ultimately you are dating the person and his capability to be a loving, honest, and fun life mate.

Seaofclouds's avatar

@Monica987 While what you say is true, you do have to also think about the demands their career will have on your relationship and family (should it go that far). Doctor’s often have to spend some time on call (depending on their practice) and often have to work long hours each day. There are other careers that can have an impact on a relationship as well (military, police, and fire fighters for example). Some careers are more demanding than others and that does effect their relationships.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

@Monica987 There are tons of jobs that pay more for less work. A lot of those jobs don’t involve 100% gore, all day, every day. Some of it is money, for sure. But there has to be a reason to become a doctor and not a lawyer or a business man, or they won’t make it.

Monica987's avatar

Yes, I agree there has to been a reason to commit to a given career path, very true.

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