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Parents, What did you think when your kid/kids first started dating?

Asked by CynthiaLC (124points) August 21st, 2010

Did/Do you pry into their relationships? When my son started dating he was 16 and I was happy for him. I think I never got into his business, but it was nice when he brought his girlfriend home. Now, after numerous girlfriends, I am kind of disappointed in him. He has made some bad choices when it comes to women, but if he loves the woman he is with or was with, I’d be happy for him regardless.

Now my youngest who’s 17 is starting to see her first boyfriend or so it seems to me. They have known of each other for about five or six years. The funny thing is that they just started talking a few weeks/days ago. They have been spending a lot of time together and I am utterly happy. He’s a sweet little guy and I hope something does come of it. He takes her to the mall and beach a lot. He’s fairly shy, kinda like my daughter.

So what was your first reaction when your kids/kid started dating? How old were they, and did you know the parents of the boy/girl your child was dating? did you like their first boyfriend/girlfriend?

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ducky_dnl's avatar

I hope something comes of it too. Wacka Wacka Wack ;)

psst! This question might have been better in the general section!

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

I don’t have children of dating age, technically I don’t have children at all.
However, I am considerably older than my sisters… and I am awful about prying into their relationships. I am extremely protective of them, and I let any potential jerks that are hanging around know it. On the contrary, the nice guys in their lives get a lot of love from me.
Probably a bad habit, but, I have to be honest.

Cruiser's avatar

As long as I have ammo….never happen!

ducky_dnl's avatar

lol @Cruiser. Are you planning to threaten your kids potential boyfriend/girlfriend with a gun? haha :)

sccrowell's avatar

I have two grown daughters and it’s kind of funny. I older brother always got in their faces, he let them know he was watching them at all time just waiting for them to make one mistake, do one thing wrong, that they would regret it for the rest of their lives. Gosh, he would scare them to death. Then he started doing it all over again with my daughter, his nieces. Their dad could be in the room but, it was their uncle that scared them!

ucme's avatar

That “delight” still awaits for me. I’d imagine when that day dawns i’d probably high five my son. My daughter however, well let’s just say any “boy” has any intentions towards my little girl, he gonna have to impress the hell outta Daddy first :¬)

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

I am a teenager, never had a bf, kissed, sex, drunk like a slut or what so ever just to fit in but I’ve tested beer, I did smoke for some weeks to fit in and I really regret it!, I am a good girl I would rather be loved for who I am do for what I do to fit in and what I am not
My parents are proud of me and I am sure when I start dating there isn’t going to be anything wrong with it, at least I am sixteen and not knocked up!

School first

perspicacious's avatar

I thought 11:00 PM would never arrive the first night my older went on a date. I made her call me twice during the evening. Poor thing—she didn’t even argue about it.

Frenchfry's avatar

My child is three. I am sure my protective nature will set in. I hope that she will be able to talk to about anything by then. My husband will have a gun ready.( joke) Depending on age( kids are growing up so fast these days) I would like to drive them to and fro. Make sure she makes it. Birthcontrol at the first sign of any sexual activity.

Seek's avatar

My son is two and already a chronic flirt and obsessed with breasts.

I’m going to have some trouble with that one, that’s for sure.

We’ll see what happens when we get there.

Seaofclouds's avatar

My son is 8 and has talked about finding a “girlfriend” at school this year. While it’s not dating yet, it’s enough for me to start thinking about it. I don’t know what will happen once we get to actual dating.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

My son is 4 and has had a girlfriend for a year. I found it necessary to meet her family and so I did – we now hang out all together. They’re gonna be together forever. But if not and he has to date, I hope to not be a hovering parent.

JilltheTooth's avatar

I was delighted when @Katawagrey started dating. She mostly makes good choices in her boyfriends and mostly has high quality relationships. I’m still good friends with her first boyfriend’s family, just spent this morning with his mom, in fact and since I figure that dating is inevitable, I was happy that it went so well for her.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

My oldest daughter is 9, and already somewhat interested in boys. She has “boyfriends” at school, but it’s really not to the point where I think anything of it. I am already dreading the older ages and waiting to see what happens when she actually starts dating. I’m really hoping I won’t be an overprotective goon like my mother was when I was dating. I already know I will be approaching the sex issue differently than my mother did.

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