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Brother and Sister Jellies! Please, will you help?

Asked by sccrowell (3508points) August 21st, 2010 from iPhone

I ask those of you, will you please say a prayer or have good thoughts? This is NO JOKE.. My younger brother Randell, was in an extremely serious accident (a single car and no one else involved. Well, except for a 100 year old tree) this past tuesday and is in ICU critical condition. Although, I am grateful he was sent to a hospital with a Trauma Center, the Doctors are not sure if he will survive. I know there are those of you who may feel if it were you, you may not wish to live. It is nothing gory, Randell has broken his back in two places, he also has broken his neck. His right hip was shattered as was his pelvis and right arm. He has multible broken ribs and two fractured ribs. He shattered his right cheek and fractured his skull. they also have him on a assistedventilator. Yet, with all these adversities (sp) he is facing and while an induced coma and heavily sedated, our mother told the doctors she need to be with him, which they finally allow ( the good part) as she very gently put his hand in hers and said, honey? Mommy is here with you now, and I love you… She felt a slight movement and looked at her hand. To see Randell raised his index finger every so slightly to her words. It was the first movement of any kind. Doctors and nurses both in the room saw him communicating wth our mom. He barely moved his toe, when the Doctor asked her to please step out. He went in for one of many many surgeries that he will face. They were giving him antibiotics to prevent any lung infection but now he has one. Their worst fear is happening.
So, to my dear friends and extended family members please will you say a small prayer for my brother? I apologize for any typos, I’m using my iPhone. Much love and my heart felt thanks…

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Jude's avatar

Praying for your dear brother and keeping you all in my thoughts..

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

What a terrible tragedy for your family! I hope everything goes well, and the doctors do their utmost. I also hope your family is able to stick together and help each other in this difficult time.

Dog's avatar

I am praying!

Please keep us updated.
Sending hugs to you and all your family.

Aster's avatar

Yes; I will start praying this morning. Can u give us the town he’s in so I can mention that also? Aster

sccrowell's avatar

Yes, Randell lives in Bakersfield, CA

MacBean's avatar

Sending positive thoughts and good vibes his way, and I’ll pass the message on to my network of positive-thinkers from when I had my surgeries. Keep us updated. ♥

Aster's avatar

ok; sccrowell; I’ll mention his name and town in my prayers today.

partyparty's avatar

My thoughts and good wishes are with you and your family.
Please let us know how things go. <3

Austinlad's avatar

@sccrowell, I’m sending positive thoughts and prayers for Randell to you and your family.

Facade's avatar

Praying for your family

Vunessuh's avatar

My thoughts are with you and your family @sccrowell. I’m so sorry for what’s happened. Please keep us updated. I wish you and your family all the best through this difficult time and I hope your brother is able to pull through and has a smooth-as-can-be recovery.

janbb's avatar

Sending love and positive thoughts to you, Gary, and your family, Sherry. I am so sorry for what has happened and hoping for the best.

chelle104's avatar

I too, am sending my prayer’s your way, with love and warmth to you and your family. God bless all of you!

marinelife's avatar

I am sending positive energy Randall’s way. With hope that he will recover. Take care of yourself and your family as you all go through this ordeal.

ChocolateReigns's avatar

Definitely. Please keep us updated!

Coloma's avatar

Sending love and light and healing thoughts for Randall.

Aethelwine's avatar

I’ll be thinking of you and your family today, Sherry. I’m so sorry.


aprilsimnel's avatar

I wish the best possible outcome for your brother, @sccrowell.

Seaofclouds's avatar

I’ll have your family in my thoughts and prayers. I’m sorry for the situation you are all in and I hope that all of you can find the strength you need to get through this time.

sccrowell's avatar

I can not begin to tell you what your thoughts and prayers mean to me! Gary & I thank you soooo very much. I thought I was so much stonger than I am. Oh god, I am so afraid, for him, so afraid he’ll give up! I love him so very much…

AmWiser's avatar

Praying that you find much peace and understanding and strength during this tragic time. Please keep the community abreast of any changes.

aprilsimnel's avatar


Oh, my dear, I’m so sorry he and your family are going through this. It’s so frightening, I know.

nikipedia's avatar

Lots of love to you and your family <3 You’re in my thoughts.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

My thoughts are with him and with you – this is pretty serious and I am sorry it happened…take each hour as it comes.

JilltheTooth's avatar

All of the green light and prayers to all of you. I’ll pass the word around, (in real life) so more and more can send good energy.

sakura's avatar

Thoughts and prayers are with you all xxx

chyna's avatar

Sherry, I am and will be praying for Randell for as long as it takes. A very special prayer for you to help you stay strong.

zen_'s avatar

רפואה שלמה החלמה מהירה

Thoughts and Prayers for you and yours.

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar


The Light of G-d enfold him, reflect his Divine Perfection and restore his strength.

We lift him up with our prayers and love.

(And your family as well.)



cookieman's avatar

I will certainly keep him in my thoughts and send good energy his way. I truly hope this works out for the best. I’m so sorry.

downtide's avatar

I am not religious but I’m sending my best wishes to your brother and to you and your family. ((hugs))

augustlan's avatar

Oh, Sherry. I’m so sorry! I’m send love and positive energy to you and your family. <3

Kayak8's avatar

Sherry: I prayed for him this evening and will keep him on my list. Also forwarded the message to my FB friends to add him to their prayer lists. Heartfelt wishes to your family through this difficult time. Don’t forget to stop and take care of each other and yourselves!

El_Cadejo's avatar

Sherry I’m really sorry to hear about you’re brother. I hope he makes a speedy recovery.

Blondesjon's avatar

Consider it done Sherry. If you need anything, let me know.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

Sending positive thoughts to your family. ((hugs))

whatthefluther's avatar

Many thanks to all of you for your thoughts and prayers. Sherry will be heading back to Bakersfield again today to visit Randell and will post an update.
See ya…....Gary/wtf

janbb's avatar

Again, love to you both, Gary.

mangeons's avatar

Sending positive thoughts your way, I really hope everything turns out alright. <3

sccrowell's avatar

As most of you know, I went up north to spend time with my brother. When I arrived, I was told there had been little if no changes. He is still in an induced coma and heavily medicated and running a slight fever of 99. It’s still touch and go… I’m told that he was schedule for his surgery (try to repair his shattered hip & pelvis) monday morning. His nurse asked that I did nothing to cause him to become excited in anyway for fear he’ll pull out any of the tubes, wires or iv’s that are connected to him. I of course I said, that I wouldn’t. Little did I know, how wrong I would be.
Anyway, I sat down next to his bed, not holding his hand, but very gently placed my fingertips on top of his hand and began telling him what was happening outside of this hospital. Such as, his wife, daughter and Gary. I then began telling Randell about his niece, (my youngest daughter Ashley @thetypicalusername) and how she has taught Mason her 9 mo. old son how to talk. So, there I sat telling him everything Mason could now say’s, mama, dada, baba and byebye. And then I decided to tell him (Randell) that Ashley has been trying to teach Mason to say his name or rather Uncle Randell, but instead, Mason say’s, ra ra ra! By this time, I have tears running down my face and then the monitor started beeping and Randell lifted his left arm about 12 inches. I calmly said Randell calm down relax. pleaseeeeee….. other wise, they’ll make me leave. The monitor stopped beeping. I know he heard me, I know he had to of heard me… I can tell you I have never been soo scared, as I was then. After a few minutes, I told him I had better leave because he needed to rest, he needed to heal. That I loved him & I begged him not to give up!
Surgery was cancelled and rescheduled for Wed. They have decrease all of his pain medication, she said, he was extremely agitated due to the pain, but she is unable to give him any. This, I due not understand!!!!
Pleaseeeee!!! Someone help me to understand. I’m going back up there while he’s having his surgery and then I will read to him.

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

@sccrowell Since pain medication and anaesthetics both act on the nervous system, there is the potential that they will combine to form a dangerous mixture of drugs, for the same reason people are always told not to mix medications or take medications not prescribed for them. That is why anaesthetists are among the highest paid of all doctors – any mistakes are potentially very serious. I’m sure the medical team looking after your brother is doing the best thing for him.

I’m glad you have had the chance to talk to him, and that he has been able to hear you. I hope the surgery goes smoothly, and you have your brother back whole as soon as possible.

cookieman's avatar

Hang in there @sccrowell – you’re a great sister. Best of luck with his surgery tomorrow.

Cruiser's avatar

Wow! So sorry to hear about such a scary situation with your brother! Just hang in there and be strong for him! I will send out some healing thoughts his way. Keep us updated!

chyna's avatar

Such promising signs that he is able to hear you and respond. I’ve kept you and Randell in my thoughts all week. Sherry, be sure to keep up your strength too. Try to rest when you can and eat, as the following weeks will absolutely zap your strength.

partyparty's avatar

Thinking of you, your brother and your family. Stay strong.

janbb's avatar

Hang in there, Sherry.

Blondesjon's avatar

We’re all with you on this Sherry and please be sure to take care of yourself like @chyna said.

Kayak8's avatar

You and your family are still in my prayers . . ..

sccrowell's avatar

! update !
They removed the ventilator!!! Yeaaaaaaa!!!!!! It’s only on a trial thing. His nurse said, it may only last minute or could be longer. I know she doesn’t want me to get my hopes up, only to be dashed. Yet, I see it as one breath today, perhaps two tomorrow, and maybe more the next day. Actually, he’s been breathing on his own for an hour now, but he’s in soooooo much pain. Randell is trying to remove the tubes. No, he’s trying to rip anything and everything out. They are going to restrain him.
I’m trying to update my avatar(sp) with his photo, but I lost my iPhone today and because some of my files on my previous version of Windows 7 had become corrupted, Ahhhh hell with it tonight. My brain is mush right now. I am going to bed, but before I do, I would like to say Thank You. Because I know, really really know, that without everyone of you and your strength, prayers, kind words, your encouragement. Well, he wouldn’t be here.

Tomorrow, I am going to read this to him, and every day there after. He has so many that are pulling for him and he doesn’t even know. But tomorrow? He will…. Dang, I can’t read what I am writing it has become a big blurrrrr. DRATTED TEARS… Good night Dear ones…..

aprilsimnel's avatar

Sleep well, @sccrowell. Still thinking of you all. :)

augustlan's avatar

Progress! I like the thought of one breath at a time. You and your family are still in my thoughts, Sherry.

janbb's avatar

Rest as much as you can, baby. You need to keep your strength. This report sounds positive.

downtide's avatar

@sccrowell That’s great news, it sounds like he’s making progress. Take care of yourself too. He needs you now like never before. ((hugs))

El_Cadejo's avatar

I am happy to hear he is doing better. I hope he recovers well the rest of the way :)

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

@sccrowell….....We still hold your brother in our hearts….and prayers! And you and all your family…stay strong, think always for the best! Tell him that he has a lot of jellies praying for him, too. :)

sccrowell's avatar

<—This is my brother Randell Wednesday ! UPDATE !
Okay, Randell went into surgery to reconstruct his hip and pelvic area. When I spoke to his nurse, she told me he has a whole lot of hardware now. Lots of nuts & bolts and few screws, god only knows what else. They also put him back on the ventilator, but, this time it is unassisted. The machine is breathing for him now. The Dr.‘s also put Randell back into an induced coma he’s being heavily medicated and he still running a fever.

! Update Again !
Good news that went terribly bad… Apparently, my brothers stepdaughter visiting and became very very upset crying loudly and carrying on, I won’t get into what was said. But, when my eldest daughter walked in, she immediately walked over to calm her down and asked her walk outside until she was calmer, because the Doctor does not want Randell excited. All of a sudden Randell opened his eyes wide, looked around, she said he look terrified and he started thrashing about. I guess the nurse and my mother came in and assisted her out. And my daughter was able to catch his hand and calmly said everything is alright close your eyes, that she was there, and for him to go back to sleep. When he calmed down or went back to sleep, they left. I guess he wasn’t in that deep of a coma, but I can bet he is now.
Note Thank you everyone for allowing me to do this…. to write this… It really helps! Again, thank you for all your support well wishes and your love. Ben and Andrew, You have the Very Best of the Best here at for without them, well I won’t even go there… Thank you @Ben and @Andrew

augustlan's avatar

We’re here for you, girlie. ♥♥♥

janbb's avatar

We’ve got your back; keep posting if it helps.

chyna's avatar

Still keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

JilltheTooth's avatar

Every day is a good one that he’s still with you, and the fact that they felt he was able to tolerate surgery is a very good sign. Still a long road, we all are still pulling hard for all of you! Much green light and positive images coming from here.

Kayak8's avatar

Well if you are reading these out loud to him, let me try this approach:

Randell: Your sister is a someone a lot of us care about and she told us about what happened to you. She keeps giving us updates and a big cheer goes out across the internet when we hear about improvements you are making! We know this is a marathon rather than a sprint, so take the time you need to rebuild your strength and just relax into the loving arms of the family members around you.

Remember all the wonderful experiences you have had and use them to draw the courage you need to keep pushing through what today has to offer. Pain can be fleeting if you can find that place deep inside yourself where you are safe. If you aren’t getting the medication you need to stay on top of the pain, your family can help advocate for you.

Someday you will look back on this time in your life with a new realization of just how important you are to so many people. Rest as you need and absolutely believe that you have the power to come through this!


janbb's avatar

@Kayak8 That is amazing! I want you on my team if I ever get sick.

sakura's avatar

I can’t believe how strong some people can be, keep going @sccrowell we are all thinking of you xx ((hugs))

Kayak8's avatar

Does anyone have an update on Randell?

sccrowell's avatar

I’m so sorry I haven’t updated this. I think about doing it every night, but, with the death of Garys dad, Randell doing worse and so many other crazy things…. I just I haven’t made the time. I will do so this evening.

Kayak8's avatar

@sccrowell No urgency on my account. You are just in my thoughts and prayers and it sounds like with good reason! Please take time for yourself this evening (a hot bath, nice cup of tea or something stronger, and get some rest). So sorry to hear about Gary’s dad as well—hugs to you both!

janbb's avatar

@sccrowell Give Gary my love.

augustlan's avatar

@sccrowell I’m so sorry. Hugs to both of you.

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