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What should I do with this friend of mine?

Asked by ConfusedKid (153points) August 26th, 2010

I speak to a girl who is a close friend of mine and we spoke all the time and loved it but I left for week with no communication – and as soon as I got back, we rarely spoke and when we were both on msn it wasnt the same and kinda boring. It might just be that conversation but if its not – is there any good ways to get it back to how it was or should I just let it ‘rebuild?’ it sounds sort of pathetic if you cant relate to it…

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kkcope123's avatar

just take things slow. and maybe things will be up like they use to be. :)

ConfusedKid's avatar

@kkcope123 – thank you :) I hope so – id be pretty upset if it doesnt

flutherother's avatar

Did you tell your friend why there was no communication? She might be upset that you left for a week if you didn’t tell her why. It sounds like you had a good friendship going and I hope it continues.

ConfusedKid's avatar

@flutherother – Yeh I did – I was on holiday and she was saying shes gonna miss me and cant wait till I get back and now its kinda like – “soooo…” If you know what I mean?
And likewise

marinelife's avatar

Give it some time. She might have found other things to do in the interim.

christos99's avatar

think of some funny jokes, or inside comments that made you both laugh… she may have backed off a bit, but if you were good friends, give it time and relocate that comfort zone…

CMaz's avatar

That is life. Makes your skin get thick.

mollydrew's avatar

In your absence your friend might have become involved in another project and they are putting their efforts in a new direction. Don’t take it too personally, keep communicating with them and either things will pick up or they won’t. This person may have been great to communicate with but not the only one you talk to, right? Like you say school is starting and perhaps they have a great deal of preparration for school or work etc. Things change we all move on, it doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, it just means things change.

BarnacleBill's avatar

Did you tell her you missed talking to her while you were gone? And that you didn’t have internet/phone? My daughter had the same problem with some of her friends when she was in Europe for several months. Most of the time, she was in the mountains, with no cell reception.

It can take a little bit of time to get the rhythm of a relationship back.

perspicacious's avatar

Welcome to the world of dating. A week is too longl.

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