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Anyone have them annoying in-laws?

Asked by Mom2BDec2010 (2666points) August 29th, 2010

What do they do that annoys you?

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stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

Only a future father-in-law who assaulted me with a baseball bat. I’m still wearing a cast.

marinelife's avatar

My mother-in-law is absolutely poisonous. She rewrites history in her own mind to suit herself.

She and my father-in-law once wrote my husband a letter suggesting that he divorce me and come live with them! We did not speak to them for a year after that.

tedibear's avatar

@stranger_in_a_strange_land – YIKES! Hope you’re healing well.

My ex-MIL was a real treat. An alcoholic and a chain smoker. We would go out to dinner with her and she would pick at some chicken dish and drink 5 or 6 scotches. Then we would have to sit at the bar with her so she could have 2 or 3 more. When we would drive her home, she would get maudlin. Blech. This, of course, would launch my ex into a depressive state because she would apologize for stuff she had done years ago and ramble about being a bad mother. Yeah, I don’t miss her at all.

Cruiser's avatar

If anybody remembers Mike Meyers rendition of Coffee Talk With Linda Richman and his/her guests is what I have to endure every holiday except 2 bottles of red wine are involved as well. XO

MissAusten's avatar

My in-laws are only moderately annoying. For the most part, I really like them. They are always more than willing to help out in any way and my mother -in-law babysits regularly. Sometimes they get on my nerves, but it’s mainly little things that don’t actually matter.

The only thing I really wish I could change concerns my father-in-law. He is an alcoholic, and sometimes when they invite us for dinner he’s quite drunk by the time we arrive. After a certain point, he is very unpleasant to be around. He has lately been picking on my middle child, being overly critical of everything from the way he talks to his table manners. He’s SIX, by the way. At the same time, he will overlook anything the other two kids do. My husband and I have both talked to him about it, but when he’s drunk he ignores us. The next day, he will apologize and be extra nice to our son. It’s frustrating. I told him he needs to either criticize all three kids equally or indulge them all equally, but stop singling out one kid. He isn’t like this every time we’re around though, and overall we get along fine.

My husband is the one who has it bad with the in-laws. My dad is OK, but my mom is absolutely crazy and is a nightmare to be around. Luckily we don’t see her more often than every couple of years.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

As much as I make fun of her,my mother in law is actually entertaining,smart,funny and very pretty too.Maybe one day,I’ll unlock the cage and let her roam free ;)

ZEPHYRA's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille that could be a bit like opening Pandora’s Box! I wouldn’t do that too soon!

Frenchfry's avatar

On both side moms and dads have past away. I get along with all of my sister in laws. and brother in laws except for one. She has a tendacy to not be able to live on her own. She moves to relative to relative . She is 45 with a one child. She moves in and NEVER leaves. My husband feels responsible for her because he is the oldest. I just hate the way she takes advantage of everyone. . She also told me that my husband and I are never going to work. Very judgemental lady.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ZEPHYRA I think you’re right! :)

jerv's avatar

I have a mother-in-law who had Borderline Personality Disorder (think Mommy Dearest) and an adopted brother-in-law who has ADHD (amongst other issues) who might be eligible for parole in a couple of years and has spent most of his years in prison begging us for money. Actually, he spent most of his time before prison looking for a free ride, and with all the bad checks he wrote, I am surprised that he didn’t keep some of those ill-gotten gains for himself.

The kicker is that my MIL thinks he is a better person than my wife because he knocked up some hell-pig and gave her a grandchild she can never see whereas my wife stayed drug-free, never got arrested multiple times, went to college, and actually became a productive (though child-free) member of society.

Needless to say, my wife likes my family much better.

@stranger_in_a_strange_land WTF?!

SuperMouse's avatar

I have a battle-ax of an ex-mother-in-law. For his entire life, she used her love and approval as a weapon against her son (my ex-husband). (Let me tell you, as a result of that dysfunctional dynamic, my ex barely manages to have a relationship with his car, much less any kind of woman.) She was particularly talented at using hysterics to cause a scene at family get togethers – especially ones that involved both sides of the family. She gets co-dependent with everyone in her path and if you are not willing to let her do so there is hell to pay. When I was in labor with my second son she had just had knee surgery; she came tooling into the delivery room like the queen of Sheba and started ordering around everyone in the room. She treats her husband as if her is her poorly trained dog. To top it all off she is absolutely convinced that she is the salt of the earth and cannot understand why anyone on the planet does not bow to her every whim. It is one of myriad reasons I fall on my knees and thank the dear Lord I am no longer married.

Akua's avatar

My mother-in-law is a real bitch. When we stayed at her house, she would wake up at the crack of dawn every morning and blast 3 different radios. They would all be playing different gospel stations. Then she would make breakfast for my husband and herself but not for me or our daughter. She never really spoke to me directly either. She only talked to hubby if she had a question. She is a miserable old bitch and this is why she is alone by herself with no man. None of her kids want to live near her. Her favorite child is hubby’s oldest sister and she has no problem showing favoritism. Her reason for liking 1 child over the other 4? The one she likes most has money and she loves money. Hubby says that when his mother left his father many years ago, the lawyer discovered that she had 5 bank accounts and 2 houses she had accumulated while she was married that no one knew about. She was siphering money out of his dad’s account and stashing them in her accounts. She was a stay at home mom and never worked outside the home so the money and property wasn’t hers.

KatawaGrey's avatar

I’m not married, but I have an ahem interesting relationship with my boyfriend’s mother.

A few odd things about my boyfriend’s mother:

-I have been dating her son for almost two years and not once has she introduced herself to me. When we first met, I put my hand out and said, “Hello, I’m KatawaGrey. It’s nice to meet you.” She took my hand and said, “It’s nice to meet you too,” and smiled. I stood there for a few moments with a big stupid smile on my face waiting for her to say, “Please call me Mrs. So-and-so.” Nope. I would also like to point out that she had no idea I had slept in her house that night and that I had no idea that I was forbidden from doing so. Oh, and it is entirely possible that the first time she saw me, I was naked. Not a very good start to our relationship.

-At her son’s 23rd birthday dinner, she found out that I was at the time 19. This was the second time I had ever seen her. She waited until I went to the bathroom and then ripped into him for dating someone so young, in front of the rest of the family. She still had not introduced herself.

-The last time I saw her, the boy and I went into the house which we thought was empty. We were inside for probably 20 minutes. Then our friend came to pick us up and as we were pulling away, she came running out of the house and knocked on my window and proceeded to have a full conversation about having me come over for dinner at some point. That was about three weeks ago. I still don’t know what to call her.

I get along quite well with my bf’s stepfather though he and his mother have a tendency to leave us alone together when I am over for dinner. When this happens, we’re never sure what to talk about. I like him though, mostly because when I first met him at the aforementioned birthday dinner he ordered a plate of muscles and as he was eating them, declared that they were an aphrodisiac and then kept eating while I stifled riotous laughter.

My bf’s biological father hasn’t been in the picture for many years and we’re all very glad of that.

If my boyfriend and I ever become a permanent part of each other’s lives, I imagine the time spent with our families will be ahem interesting.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

@KatawaGrey Meg and I suffered that same crap from my family, except from my mother, bless her.

Blondesjon's avatar

No. I actually get along better with my in-laws than I do my own parents.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@MissAusten I wouldn’t bring the kids at all then, that’s ridiculous.
I think my in-laws are nice and caring people – they did a great job with my husband, he’s an incredible person. I think I get along better with my FIL, he’s a lot more like my husband. My MIL is too proper.

YARNLADY's avatar

My Mother-In Law is a saint. How she ever put up with FIL was a mystery to everyone in the family. However, now that he is gone, she is really enjoying her final years.

As an MIL myself, I have a 4 – 1 record. All previous 4 women who married my sons were happy with me, but the latest one has called me the MIL from hell – to my face. I have hope that she will come around, or my son will – I will be happier either way.

P.S. Make that 5 – 1, I just met my oldest son’s partner (not married) and she had only favorable things to say about me.

MissAusten's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir If it happened more often, we wouldn’t. We simply leave if my father-in-law is too out of control. We also decided to stop going over for dinner, and have lunch with them instead. His mood is always still very good at that time of day, and my kids really love him. Yesterday we went to their house for lunch, and he got into the swimming pool with the kids. They all had a great time. It’s just a matter of timing and of us refusing to be around him when his drinking has put him into one of his disagreeable moods.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@MissAusten Of course, it’s never black or white, I understand – people are complex and children are, as well. I’m glad some good can be gotten out of him and this is certainly a good learning opportunity for your children, to never get into drinking.

rts486's avatar

Yes, but no more than my own mother. I pretty much ignore my family members when they are annoying.

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