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What's the best thing to do when your father is diagnosed to DIE in a month :(?

Asked by jorgefsb (4points) March 26th, 2008 from iPhone

my father has got lung cancer I’m overloaded with work peace with him but dunno how to f…. Manage his dusk!

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scamp's avatar

I don’t quite understand your wording, but I think you are asking what to do with your Father during his final days, am I right? I am so sorry you are going through this.

jorgefsb's avatar

yes he’s in his final days I’m just searching for the best thing to do while he’s still here :( thanx for answering Y.

axlefoley's avatar

Make him feel very special, to the very end. But don’t forget your own health, at this stressful time. Good luck.

scamp's avatar

I found hospice very helpful when dealing with my father’s death. They were very good at helping me know what was the best thing to do. Talk to him and ask him what his wishes are. Let him be your guide. Try to act as normally as you can around him. Does he know how long he has left?

bulbatron9's avatar

if it were my father, I would spend every minute I could with him. Videos, photos, and memories will be the most precious possesions you will have. I’m so sorry, and I wish you the best.

gailcalled's avatar

Dreadful for you and your dad. How old are you? In addition to the love and tenderness, see whether you two have unfinished business. It will be your last chance, and if you have unresolved issues, dealing with them might bring you both some peace. I am speaking thru the filter of my father’s unexpected (and self-induced) death and my feelings, of course.

My deepest sympathies.

chris007's avatar

spend alot of time with him….alot, I think that’s the best thing to do.

kelly's avatar

If it is within the family communication style, you may want to make comment about current valid will, trusts, power of attorney (medical and financial). Services wishes, burial site etc. location of important papers, birth cert, marriage license, military discharge, pensions, IRA’s, investments (especially if in another state), land deeds, divorce settlement, discuss some family history, relatives etc. a tape recorder is handy, since some may not want to be video. Our wishes and prayers go with you.

oneye1's avatar

he will always see you as his lil girl let him know he did a good job rasing you that you love him if you are beleivers pray together I’m sorry I will pray for you two

iSteve's avatar

If you don’t spent as much time as possible with him now, you’ll regret it later.

susanc's avatar

If you can’t do all these good things because work is too demanding, forgive yourself
right away. Tell your dad how hard this is for you: you would like to spend all your
time with him, perhaps, but will have to make do. My husband is very sick too; all we
can do is live. Live and love. Love you too, honey. Very sorry.

jorgefsb's avatar

I’m 32 I live in Guadalajara Mexico and have never thought how impressive can be to read you all guys and feel some sort of relief and guidance. This man gave his complete life for me… I’ll admire him forever. With that I just want to thank you all and send my sincere love hugs and respective kisses. Really ! Thank u and love u all.

Jorge suárez basañez

jorgefsb's avatar

live and love… Thanks for sharing ur lives and love guys.


jorgefsb's avatar

dad just died 2 days ago. Killed by lung cancer thanks to you all!! Really. With all my love. Jorge.

scamp's avatar

I’m so sorry Jorge. My deepset sympathies to you and your family.

bulbatron9's avatar

Jorge, I am so sorry! I wish you and your family the best in this trying time. Just remember the good times, and know that all of the good people at fluther give you their sympathy.

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