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How do you deal with injustice?

Asked by stardust (10562points) September 12th, 2010

I’m wondering about injustice on a personal level as opposed to a political/general level.
Say when a person is spreading malicious rumours/telling lies out of his/her own insecurities or issues.
How do you channel the anger that comes with that into something positive?

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Deja_vu's avatar

I find that the best way is to be true to yourself and others will see through the malicious lies, and the other person will look like a jack-ass.

Ben_Dover's avatar

I stand up for my rights and refuse to be intimidated. I find a law that backs me up or a loophole in the law being used against me and I make a stand!

Malicious lies and slander are beneath me.

TexasDude's avatar

Swiftly, effectively, and with great prejudice.

Randy's avatar

If it’s just words, I let it roll down my back. I don’t really care all that much what most people think about me and I like to think that my own words and actions show who I am and what I’m about better than someone else’s words.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

It all depends on the situation and how much I can put myself in danger.

Cruiser's avatar

I ignore it and if that is not good enough for them then I channel it with snap kicks to their groin until they better appreciate my lack of interest in their insecurities!

Berserker's avatar

In such situations I just ignore it. I found that someone spreading malicious rumours and bullshit about you will quickly decline and stfu if you don’t do anything to defend yourself, since after a bit they just end up looking like morons since their words never meet any confirmation.

It might not be so honourable, but it works, and damnit I have other things to do than feed fires.

As for the anger and sorrow that may come form it, it’s the same as everything else; booze and horror movies lol.

zophu's avatar

I don’t experience anger over something like that. It’s a broken thing. I only feel sadness. Which is counterproductive as it only makes me appear to be more suspect to most. But I see no reason to protect a reputation within a people capable of forming an opinion about someone based on simple assumptions. I’ve seemed to always have good people with strong enough reputations to vouch for me, though, so maybe that’s the best way to deal with it. Be humble, be honestly sad instead of defensively angry, and show the injustice to those who will understand so that they may help others understand. The same could be applied to any injustice I sympathize with, I guess.

Seaofclouds's avatar

I just ignore it. I don’t get angry about it. Perhaps a bit annoyed, but not angry.

Jeruba's avatar

@Deja_vu, that is a pretty belief, but in my experience it’s not borne out. Rather, the lies are likely to be believed by some, and the people who see the disconnect between your behavior and the false accusations will just think you are a damned phony and accuse you of trying to dupe them by playing the injured innocent.

People who choose the route of lies and slander and false accusation as a way of getting something they want do it for one of two reasons, or so I believe: either (a) because they don’t have what it takes to get something fairly and on their own merits or (b) because they simply enjoy the duplicity and manipulation in the same way that some people enjoy trolling online. Either way, a sincere, honorable person is never even going to imagine what someone might be thinking of or doing or saying against them and might even play into it completely naively by “being true to himself or herself” in a way that others can misinterpret.

As soon as such a person catches on and tries to defend himself (let’s just say “himself” for simplicity), he is apt to run into wily counterattacks that he is completely unprepared for and may also set others to wondering whether he is just a whiner trying to blame others for his own problems. Where there’s smoke, there’s fire, they will say.

Someone who’s willing to play this dirty game in the first place will have no compunction about twisting the victim’s attempts at self-exoneration. The innocent is no match for an unscrupulous person, no matter how many movie scripts, sitcoms, superhero comics, and moralistic children’s books turn out the other way.

And it does matter, because people’s reputations are easily destroyed and difficult to regain, maybe impossible; the whispers will always remain; and because in the workplace in particular, it is not just a matter of comfort but of perceived performance, eligibility for recognition and raises and promotions, loss of safety margin against layoffs, etc. Even if they know you’re innocent, they can want to get rid of you just to make the tiresome controversy go away. False accusations can literally cost you your livelihood.

I don’t see that there’s much that can be done about it. One’s true friends won’t believe it. But one can suffer much harm from such malicious backstabbing, and it may never be possible to put it right. I think we are foolish if we believe that by ignoring it we can become immune to the effects.

Liars tend to think others are liars. Honest people seldom expect others to be liars, and their honesty leaves them defenseless.

Jabe73's avatar

Interesting question. I am not great at it (especially with rumors). I usually try to cope with that by seperating myself from those types of people (when possible). I am probally better at helping or standing up for other people than myself (ironically). Unfortunately many people want to believe rumors about others (even if they sound suspicious to begin with). I wish there was segregation between drama kings/queens and more introverted people like me in this world.

ETpro's avatar

I do my best to oppose injustice with reason and by speaking out against it. I strongly believe Mahatma Gandhi was right when he said, “An eye for an eye and the whole world goes blind.”

However, there are those like Hitler that won’t listen to reason. When I encounter someone like that, I fight. And if I am pushed into a fight, I mean to win or die trying. I strongly disagree with the modern concepts of “police actions” and “nation building”. Stay out of fights if you can. If the other side won’t let you, then lay waste to them till they sue for peace, or are all gone.

xdimqt's avatar

1. Injustice vs. injustice
2. Violence
3. Run

You choose.

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