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Do you think this woman had an attitude and was really rude?

Asked by ladyv900 (713points) September 15th, 2010

My friend saw one of my friends(who’s a lesbian) at a table and I was really happy she was there so me and him went over to the table where she sat with 2 older women.I’m a very friendly person I did my greeting hugs to my friend and she introduced to both me and my pal to the person she was sitting next with,(2 of the women were eyeing a lap top) one of them looked up and just nodded her head.Me,my guy friend, and my other friend was laughing talking about how we were so happy that we graduated high school when one of the women were like “hello” in a stern voice.I asked what happened,she said nastingly” My wife said hello, and y’all looking crazy at her and y’all ain’t said nothin back”. Honestly I didn’t hear anything from her wife (the guy I walked with doesn’t like being around lesbians so he probably did a certain look while I wasn’t looking).I didn’t want to lash at her back so I said “I didn’t hear her say anything, sorry if you thought I was being rude, I wasn’t giving her any crazy looks”. She just rolled her eyes, grunted,and went back on her lap top.

Did she feel some type of offensive vibe or something?When she said all of that, it looked like she wanted to come and strike at me while her wife just sat there the whole time looking straight at the laptop not saying anything.

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MissA's avatar

Let it go. Everyone is entitled an off night…gay or otherwise.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Why do you have a friend who gives nasty looks to lesbian women?

ladyv900's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I asked him and he said he just don’t. I just shook my head.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@ladyv900 Ok. Well, perhaps you’re correct and they were responding to his demeanor – either way you responded decently enough.

Mom2BDec2010's avatar

I think it was rude of her.

The_Idler's avatar

Hahahah, I read the whole question, thinking the title was
“Do you think this woman had an attitude and was really a dude?”
which kinda fit with the whole lesbian theme until I got really confused and saw the title again…

Not a dude, no. Rude yes, either had a bad day, or was too self-important to speak amicably with “kids”. Some older people are like this.

cazzie's avatar

Chip. Shoulder. Forget it. I was always taught that if you’re being introduced to someone, you stop what you are doing, stand up if the other person is standing, shake their hand and say hi. If they wanted to sit behind a computer and not be bothered, fine… but if you didn’t hear one of them say hello because you were busy hugging and laughing and chatting, I can’t see any reason for them to get upity about it.

janbb's avatar

Life’s too short to angst over things like that. Shrug it off and move on.

Kayak8's avatar

I agree with folks above that it is more of a bad day thing—lesbians certainly haven’t cornered the market on rude behavior.

mrentropy's avatar

Sometimes people expect somebody to be disapproving and acts accordingly. I’ve had it happen to me, although it’s been extremely rare. I think you did the right thing by your response.

filmfann's avatar

I agree with @MissA . Everyone has moments like this, and I hope I am never judged by one of my bad moments.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I wouldn’t worry too much about it :)
You made a nice effort to clear things up.

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