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Do phone calls seem more intimate than normal one on one chats?

Asked by Ltryptophan (10277points) September 20th, 2010

You pick up the phone and the person on the other end might not be looking into your eyes when they speak to you, but they seem to sound like they are right there talking directly into your ear. How much more intimate can communication be? Have you ever spoken into someones ear directly for twenty minutes in person? What do you think the result of that would be?

Maybe we should be able to smell the person on the other ends breath…that should bring it down a notch.

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iamthemob's avatar


Never thought about this. But I think you’re totally right. On the phone, I’m required to do nothing but sit and listen and talk to the person.

Interesting point/question.

muppetish's avatar

Since I was a kid, I’ve had an aversion to holding conversations on the phone. It’s always seemed awkward to me. Only one person comes to mind whose calls I relished receiving and they were very intimate, thought-provoking, and memorable. Even so, I preferred speaking in person.

I have spoken directly in someone’s ear for a great length, but we weren’t exactly timing our conversation.

justine's avatar

I really prefer to communicate in person or via the internet than on the telephone. i like to be able to see people when I’m listening to them – considering that communication is more than just what we hear.

Though there are certainly people in the world where I’ve had hours and hours of non-stop telephone communication with, where the time just flew by without us realizing it.

It seems muppetish up there and I have had very similar phone experiences…

Seaofclouds's avatar

I love talking, whether it’s in person, on the phone, or on line. I’ve always been talkative though. My husband and my son hate talking on the phone. I’ve had some great phone conversations in the past, and even better conversations in person. I have sat with my husband and talked in his ear for extended periods of time in the past and can’t wait to do it again in the future.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Depends on who I’m talking about and what the subject is. I prefer person to person and loathe the phone because of awkward silences. Texting/chatting seems easier because there’s less pressure while thinking and responding. Maybe that’s just me.

BarnacleBill's avatar

I hate talking on the phone, especially a cell phone, where the lag on US phones causes me to sometimes talk over the top of person.

wundayatta's avatar

It can be incredibly intimate. Two people close their eyes and their world centers on each other. They hear only a voice in their ears, but the words those voices murmur create incredibly ornate castles in the air. It is almost possible to make it feel like the person is physically next to you. It’s a matter of emotional and physical excitement. You hold that phone so tightly to your ear because it is the only tie to your love, and in many ways, it is a stronger tie than real world connections are—probably because it works through the ears.

faye's avatar

I love the phone!

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