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So, eHarmony matched me with a guy I work with - what do I do?

Asked by essieness (7693points) September 21st, 2010

We work for the same company in the same city, but at different offices. I see him on occasion and we know each other’s names, but that’s about it. He’s a nice guy and I might be interested in getting to know him better, but I’m not sure how to approach this. Should I just leave it alone? Do I send a message to go ahead and break the ice to get the awkwardness out of the way? I could sure use some advice on this awkward situation.

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Neizvestnaya's avatar

You’re both on eHarmony to meet people so yeah, send him a message. If it were me then I wouldn’t bring up knowing who he is yet, that might be kind of fun to see if he notes the details if they’re in your profile, it might be an icebreaker for him as far as conversation. Sounds like an adventure to me :)

WestRiverrat's avatar

First check your company’s policies about dating. No need to risk either of your careers without a simple call to HR first. Then what @Neizvestnaya said.

Jude's avatar

I thought that you were gone, woman.

essieness's avatar

@WestRiverrat I know they don’t want people dating in the same office, but there are several married/engaged/dating couples throughout the company.

@mama_cakes I was… but I came crawling back.

Coloma's avatar

I think it’s perfect. lol

offshoresailor's avatar

1) If you are worried about company policy: Matches are not automatically bidirectional. He will not know that he has been sent to you as a match. You might even have been sent to him as a match already. So you don’t necessarily need to do anything.
2) If you are worried about company policy but want to meet him anyway: write him a nice note saying that company policy frowns on “fraternization” so you need to close the match. But you can write it in such a way that he knows you’re in the same company, and he will figure out a way to contact you…
3) If you aren’t worried about the company policy, write him a nice note introducing yourself.
Good Luckl!

DarlingRhadamanthus's avatar

Well…he’s already seen you….because you obviously match him!

So, one of you has to break the ice!


plethora's avatar

Yes, if you are interested, send him an “icebreaker” or send him the first questions.

Mom2BDec2010's avatar

I think you should go for it and break the ice.

BoBo1946's avatar

Hey, go for it. It could be the best thing that ever happened to you! As my good friend Jimmy Scott said once, “it could be an “almond!”

essieness's avatar

@BoBo1946 I’ve never heard that saying before – can you explain it to me? :)

BoBo1946's avatar

@essieness he was replacing omen with almond to be funny. What are the chances of you being paired with a person you work with…has to be an omen. well, doesn’t have to be..

essieness's avatar

@BoBo1946 Gotcha! Funny :)

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