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Are you very good at pretending you're okay when you aren't?

Asked by ANef_is_Enuf (25199points) September 22nd, 2010

So, are you good at hiding your feelings? Does it depend on the circumstances?

I am terrible at this.

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iammia's avatar

I can hide them to a point, a point where i am like a pot boiling over and then it’s becomes obvious to every one around me that all is not okay. I do this so that people don’t worry about me….silly i know.

It’s like that song “Pretend your happy when your Blue”

partyparty's avatar

I only wish I could hide my feelings, but I can’t.
I wear my heart on my sleeve.
What you see is what you get with me.

troubleinharlem's avatar

Extremely.
I can hide how I feel for the most part, unless it’s something that would change my day-to-day life, but I can “fake” being okay by just not talking about it.
But then it boils over and I blow up at whoever the person is and tell (well, scream) everything that I hate/dislike about them.

I’m working on it, though!
good thing I have a therapist.

harple's avatar

I can hide my feelings (so long as I haven’t got to the point of needing to burst into tears)... but I think that if you knew me really well you would see in my eyes that I’m simply putting on a brave face…

Frenchfry's avatar

Nope you can always tell when I am upset. I either get real quiet or talking up a storm .

mowens's avatar

I don’t have any feelings to show.

Kidding. Although, I rarely get angry or sad… I average about once every 5 years I get very upset…

poisonedantidote's avatar

It depends on the emotion, if I am frustrated or annoyed with say poor service or something then it will show instantly. it may even manifest in me threatening to sue or actually doing so. if it is anger, then chances are it will show quite soon but not instantly. the same would go for boredom, amusement and disgust. but I am quite effective at hiding or even totally suppressing most others.

deni's avatar

No. I don’t even try. It wouldn’t matter. I can’t. If I’m upset I can’t act chipper. It will never happen with me.

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

@deni that is how I feel. I would make a terrible actress.

Aesthetic_Mess's avatar

Yes. Sometimes I wish people wouldn’t believe me, but then I don’t ever want to talk about things.

josie's avatar

I’m always pretty much OK. But I know people whose lives are burning down around them, and they act like they are on top of the world.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

I’m scary good at hiding my feelings. My s/o might be able to pick up when somethings got to me, but not always. My family always looks my way when things go wrong, and I can cover my thoughts until I get them through the problem of the day.

BoBo1946's avatar

No, i wear my “feelings on my sleeve!”

marinelife's avatar

I have found that I am good at pushing bad things aside. Recently, a string of bad news from ym family of origin has come through.

I keep pushing it into the background.

janbb's avatar

I have developed some protective coloration with age.

Seaofclouds's avatar

I’ve gotten pretty good at it with this deployment. My husband can tell when something is wrong though, so I always tell him what’s going on. I prefer not to tell my mom and the rest of my family when I’m having a rough time because I don’t want them to feel bad or helpless since they are so far away.

AmWiser's avatar

I’m very good at hiding my feelings depending on the situation. I’m good at dealing with my own feelings without burdening others with them. Husband is the only person I’ll dump any and everything on.

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

The only answer I can say is YES*VERY*MUCH*SO

gravity's avatar

You can totally tell when something is going on with me just by looking at my face or hearing my voice. My friends can tell just by the “hello” on the rare occasion that I answer my phone. It is just too much work to hide it… and feels like lying.

Your_Majesty's avatar

I can,when I want to. I tend to do this when someone I hate talk to me,well most of them are hypocrite people,I will listen in half-heart like ignoring them. Although I also tend to ignore them all the time.

Coloma's avatar

I wouldn’t call it hiding my feelings, I call it a choice, to determine whether or not something is worth addressing.

If I am in a less than high energy state I usually decline invitations so I do not have to pretend or hide my feelings. If it is a matter if someone violating my boundaries or behaving like a jackass I will address it in a timely and non-defensive way.

I have found that if something is on my mind or really bothering me for more than a day or two that is a signal to speak up, to thine own self be true.

My days of building resentments and then kitchen sinking another are long gone.

Speak up, change the situation or leave. Anything else is insanity.

muppetish's avatar

This is an interesting question because I’ve gone through phases. Up until high school, I couldn’t hide anything. My emotions were loud and everybody heard them whether they acknowledged them or not. In high school though, I thought I was pretty good at hiding things. This one time, I was incredibly depressed and nobody noticed – except the friend I had known since second grade. He came up to me and launched into a tirade of questions about the Halloween Talent Show (we were drama club nerds) and then he stopped mid-sentence and said, “Oh my god, are you okay? What happened?”

I was flabbergasted.

I’ve not considered myself good at hiding my emotions since then… now I just think most people don’t pick up on how I’m feeling because they don’t know me well enough.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Absolutely but it depends on who’s around me. There are some people who get to see all of me, just as I am. But, otherwise, if you’re a co-worker or someone I don’t care about, you will have no idea what I’m really thinking.

YARNLADY's avatar

Only when it is absolutely necessary, or in my best interest. Most of the time I don’t think it is.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Not anymore. I was for 31 years, though. Kept me “safe”, I thought. That was bull. I needed to be angry and forthright, and I finally figured that out.

There’s a way to express your feeling in the proper time and place that can help you process them through the system and also get (at least some of) your needs met.

Cruiser's avatar

I’m expert at it and in fact I was so good at, it she divorced me!

ducky_dnl's avatar

I have a pretty good poker face. I usually show only one mood to the people I know in real life. That mood would be a happy disposition. I show people my emotions when I want them to seem them.

Aster's avatar

I don’t bother hiding how I’m feeling. I don’t have extreme moods in either direction anyway.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

No, I suck even after 40 some years of practice. There have been times I get teary eyed and all choked up at the very worst times (work) and I just have to remove myself in order to not become a scene. When the gift of Poker Face was being handed out, I must have been in the porta potties or something.

partyparty's avatar

@Neizvestnaya Yes I know exactly what you mean. It would be lovely to be Poker Faced at times wouldn’t it?

OpryLeigh's avatar

No, when I’m not ok I hate being around all apart from one person and it really shows.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@partyparty: The best I’ve managed is a calm face with slight smile and people can still see through it. Ah well.

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