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How would you say that you're different from everyone else?

Asked by Jude (32198points) September 24th, 2010

I don’t fit into the Mama group (with kidlets). I don’t have Mommy discussions and want to talk about The Bachelor, and clothes. I hate texting, I don’t watch t.v., and I could do without Starbucks. A lot of the peeps (girls) who I went to school with, I’m different from them. I don’t relate.

I like music, art, plants, find beauty in urban decay, like my alone time, don’t feel the need to talk all of the time or be bubbly/happy all of the time. I don’t have to have a lot of people around me. Just a few that I care about.

I like helping people. I am the chick who will go out of her way to help someone; whether it be to run and grab the door for some elderly person, sit there and work through a problem (emotional) with one of my kids (students), or offer to pay for someone who is struggling. Someone out in the street drops something (say money), and it starts to roll, I’ll run and grab it and give it to them (it’s automatic). My girlfriend and I were walking in Toronto and a lady with heels on was coming out of the Ed Mirvish Theatre and she slipped and fell, her husband just stood there, as did other people. I went up to her and offered my hand to help her up. Her knees were scrapped and bloody and her nylons ripped. She gave me a big smile and thanked me over and over. I have great empathy and if you’re in great need, I’m there.

My girlfriend also said that I have a unique and wonderful way of seeing the world (whatever that means) and that is one of the reasons why she loves me.

I don’t feel the need to conquer the world. I just want to be me and do my thang.

How are you different?

From the girlfriend, when I asked her about me (please, do forgive me as I just started therapy and this is all part of the process ;-)):

You possess a rare combination of qualities some of which I have listed here (all of which I love): you’re feminine yet sexually dominant; you’re calm but tough; you have a wonderful eye for art and decor; you love adventure; you don’t easily dismiss things (meaning that you are willing to see the fun in activities that others might find silly or a waste of time); you have a wonderful, quirky sense of humor; you love people; you are too hard on yourself; you really listen; you’re a terrible driver; you’re romantic; you’re flexible and you aren’t the type of person who does the same thing day after day; you have a great imagination; you’re charming; you’re an encourager; you have an amazing gift with children; you follow your heart; and I could go on and on. I love you!!!

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36 Answers

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

I am different cause I don’t always care about what people think of me, I wear whatever I want to just to fit in. Just because everyone is wearing something that is in fashion and I dont like it am not going to wear it just because its in fashion. I guess thats all.

Also I have afro, no one else in class has it.

john65pennington's avatar

You do not appear that different to me. its obvious you have a big heart and tender feelings for other people. you also seem to have the tendencies of a caregiver. your personality is tied in with your atrological sign. i am not a zodiac fanatic, just an observer.

All of us are different and this is what makes a unique world. if we were all the same, it would be like all the cars on the interstate going exactly 70 mph. we would go nowhere. being different is good.

Seek's avatar

Well, I think we’re all different, in that the combinations of things that we prefer or do are varied from one person to the next.

But I’m very different from all the people I know IRL in that my idea of a fun social event doesn’t match up with theirs. All these people (mostly my husband’s friends) want to do is hang out, drink beer, and play music that’s so loud they don’t have to worry about carrying an interesting conversation. I want to throw a fancy dress party, or a wine tasting, or something… and it is just not going to work with this crowd.

free_fallin's avatar

Sometimes I think we’re all basically the same. People have said I am definitely different. I always look for the good in people and I usually find it. I love life. I love the world. I have always been able to find the beauty in everything. I get along with most people, I fight for equality in all aspects and I try to never go to sleep angry or sad. People always approach me asking for my help. People seem to be drawn to me. I’m nothing like my family or most of my friends. They tease me often. I am who I am. I have yet to change for anyone.

ragingloli's avatar

I am better than everyone else.

thekoukoureport's avatar

Like Marge Simpson said; “our differences are only skin deep but our sames go straight to the bone”

CMaz's avatar

I am different because I say so. I do not have to prove it to you. You being insignificant (in general) to me and how I live my life.

Accept it and, get over it. ;-) That diversity and strength is what will bind our friendship.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I am exactly like your first paragraph!
Other than that,I have been told that I am a strong person and I handle adversity well.I don’t know that it makes me much different than anyone else as one has no choice but to deal with what life hands them.still though,it is a nice compliment:)

Blackberry's avatar

I’m one of those guys that actually used tact, respect, and manners when hitting on women when I went out with my guy friends lol.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I don’t know if I’m all that different. We’re all struggling and I’m pretty sure many have thought my thoughts before. I suppose I’m different from some people because I’m a queer mother and a gender non conforming person but that’s nothing new around where I am. Being all the other identities that I am isn’t revolutionary, either. And I know that others exist out there who share my observant nature and over-analyzing mind.

TexasDude's avatar

How many people do you know are like me?

Exactly ;-)

cookieman's avatar

You’re only “different” until you find more people like you.

When I was in high school I was very different from the other students. Then I went to art college, and everyone was more like me.

Even on the radio: I listened to lots of talk radio and radio shows and didn’t jive with any of them until I discovered NPR and thought, “Now this I can get behind”.

And on the web: I visited a bunch of online forums and was disillusioned until I happened upon Fluther and thought, “Now these are my people”.

You’re only alone until you’re not.

BoBo1946's avatar

“I laugh, I love, I hope, I try, I hurt, I need, I fear, I cry. And I know you do the same things too, So we’re really not that different, me and you.”

Collin Raye

diavolobella's avatar

@mama cakes. The first few paragraphs that you wrote about yourself are almost exactly how I would describe myself. So, it seems we are more alike than we are different.

wundayatta's avatar

I was going to say that I was different because I’m always blowing it out my ass, but then I figured just about everybody is doing that.

It’s difficult to answer this question because what we think other people think about us may not be what they think at all. I’m crazy. Does that make me different? Most people are crazy in one way or another. I just happen to have a diagnosis and I’m taking the meds. Still there are a lot of us out there. By some estimates, one in five people has a mental illness. Different, but not all that different.

I’m probably smarter than most people, but who knows? Besides, it seems like saying that is putting a target on my stomach and handing people guns. They all want to shoot you down because they think you’re arrogant. Or, at least, I think that anyone who announces that they are smart is arrogant, so why wouldn’t everyone else think that? Who knows? Maybe I’m different that way.

Some people are impressed by the number of instruments I play well. Some say they are impressed by the way I write. Some think I give good presentations. It’s all hard to know whether these things really do make me different, or if people are just being nice.

One thing I’m pretty sure about though is that I try to deconstruct things more than most people. I like to figure out how it works and I don’t believe you can think too much. There are others here who believe as I do, but I’m not sure how prevalent we are—either here or in the wider world.

tinyfaery's avatar

I’m unique, just like everybody else. ;)

The only thing I can say is truly different about me is that I am the person that my wife chooses to love. I must be something special. (Really, she’s just crazy.)

Nially_Bob's avatar

I’m 5’9, 160lbs, white, have blue eyes and a few hobbies that alot of people wouldn’t be interested in.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

My life experiences are mine and mine alone.

janbb's avatar

Not different – just incrementally better in all respects.~

flutherother's avatar

I am not very different from everyone else but I have always hated dancing and ‘clubbing’ and loud noisy places. Give me a quiet hillside, a good book and a colourful sunset and I will be happy.

YARNLADY's avatar

I never have been able to figure it out exactly. I used to try to disguise myself as “other people” by dressing like they do, and talking like they do, but it never worked. They could always tell, but I have no clue what it is.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

Fingerprints, and that’s about it. As Seek_Kolinahr pointed out, it is just a matter of how the shuffling of the characteristic deck of cards are dealt. And cprevite said it succinctly: “You’re only “different” until you find more people like you.”

weeveeship's avatar

I have eclectic interests.

I like Gundam but not the new ones. I like Star Wars but I never read the books. I like chess but I am not into researching theoretical lines.

Berserker's avatar

I don’t think I’m really that different from just about anyone.

jerv's avatar

Aside from a mild case of Aspergers, I am surprisingly normal.

Aster's avatar

With over 4 billion people on the planet I can’t say I’m unique at all.

Crossroadsgrl's avatar

Like cprevite said, find others more like you

You’ve found one:). I have your same qualities, nearly 100%.
You’re maybe working on confidence and acceptance of Who You Are.
I would add to all the things you said My Faith. It’s unusually strong to the point my Family cannot grasp it, although my girls I’m thrilled to say ARE seeing it played out in my life and in my decisions and strength during challenging times.
This is a great question and I guess my short answer is Faith in (the Unseen Things of ) God, and my ability to make the very best out of a not so great situation ( salt and light good attitude )

You definitely seem Salt and Light, I’ll go see where you live i’m new to this site, which I enjoy very much ;)

Crossroadsgrl's avatar

Jude this was 3 months ago :)) how are you feeling about yourself today?
I’ve seen your name quite a bit…
Good luck in therapy if you’re still in it
Should have paid more attention to the original post date.

Crossroadsgrl's avatar

In reading these I think it’s CRITICAL to know what makes you different from others. Of COURSE you are each different from all others ;)
That’s what makes the world go around. You are God’s unique creatures with a very unique purpose while here.

Salem88's avatar

Damn Baby, You had me at Hello.
To answer original question: see the Sookie Stack house Question I asked tonite and my answer. Then we’ll discuss differences and samenesses.

bookish1's avatar

Well, I’m very interesting, because I am made entirely of wood.

wundayatta's avatar

@bookish1 I know many things that are entirely made of wood. Surely there is something else that distinguishes you? ;-)

JenniferP's avatar

I am more sensitive than most others.

Berserker's avatar

i like wood

Blasiangirl500's avatar

I can sense people emotions and depending on the person, I can feel it too. For example if they cry, I cry with them. I am really a chill and laid back person so nothing really bothers me. It scares people because they don’t know how I’m feeling so they assume I don’t care.

NomoreY_A's avatar

Well, as my old pappy used to say, if we all liked the same things, it’d be a pretty damn dull world. Pappy wasn’t all there, but from time to time he actually made sense.

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