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Have you ever lived in a place that just didn't feel like home?

Asked by Aesthetic_Mess (7887points) September 26th, 2010

No matter how hard you tried to like it?
I feel that way now, and I want to know if anyone else has ever felt like that.

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JLeslie's avatar

Raleigh, NC never really felt like home.

daytonamisticrip's avatar

The house I live in right now that I’ve lived in my whole life doesn’t and has never felt like home. It’s just a place where i sleep eat and live. No happiness or love.

Aster's avatar

I don’t think anywhere can feel like home as long as I didn’t grow up there. So NJ feels like home.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

Yes. I’ve been in Memphis for almost 20 years now, and it has never felt like home. Nor does the house I own here. A lot of it, of course, is my own fault, but it is partially based upon the culture of the city.

nailpolishfanatic's avatar

I am in Denmark right now, our house isn’t as big as home since it’s more expensive here. I sleep with my mother in the same bed. I am okay with it, but I just don’t feel comfortable in this country since I don’t speak the language.

Austinlad's avatar

Milwaukee! They didn’t like Texans, Jews or newcomers to the company, so I had a tough time there. Fortunately, it was a transitional job and location, so I didn’t have to be there more than six months.

rangerr's avatar

The house I’m in now. I feel more at home at work than I do here.
I refuse to consider my family a family. We are pretty much housemates, and nobody likes each other.

But I can go back to the town I lived in for the first 6 years of my life and feel comfortable with just about anyone. Good ole’ country towns are the best at that.

Trillian's avatar

Two years on Guam, I never once went outside in bare feet. It was never home.

Brian1946's avatar

Yes: Norfolk, VA.
That’s because I was living in a US Navy barrack then and there.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I lived in an apartment with paper thin walls and floors that never felt like home. It was full of all my stuff, but still never felt like I belonged there. I live in a house built during WW2 now, and I feel right at home. Lots of windows to open to let in the air…and dust. Speaking of which, it’s time to get off this computer and clean something.

Cruiser's avatar

I did 2 weeks in hospital that was like hell…lived in Germany for 3 weeks that as beautiful as it was I was still home sick.

Jude's avatar

Windsor, Ontario. I hated everything about that city.

poisonedantidote's avatar

I only get that feeling in hotels. if i move to a new town and get a place, i feel at home before i even finish unpacking.

weeveeship's avatar

The dorms. Everyone there partied and very few really seem to care much at all about their grades.

flutherother's avatar

I rented a flat once that faced north and was very dark. I never settled there properly at all and I left it at the earliest opportunity.

KatawaGrey's avatar

I’ve lived in CT the past 12 years. For the first 8 years, I felt like I was in an airport and my flight kept getting canceled.

JLeslie's avatar

@Aesthetic_Mess I was kind of bored there. I was frustrated by how the city was laid out, not many restaurants nearby that I liked, honestly it is hard to put my finger on exactly why. We had a nice house, some neighbors we really liked, just never felt like home. I’m also not a southerner, but I live outside of Memphis now, and many times I get that feeling like I know I am not a southerner, but I feel much more settled here. There was nothing in Raleigh I felt was memorable about the city, nothing I identified with.

jerv's avatar

Pretty much my entire time in the Navy, and currently with a roommate who has different ideas about things than my wife and I do.

CaptainHarley's avatar

Yes, Cincinnati, Ohio!

BoBo1946's avatar

Yes, lived in a uppity neighborhood that one resident said, “i can tell by their shoes if they should live here!” So glad to be away from there.

Brian1946's avatar


I used to live in Ottawa, but we left when I was 8, so I don’t have much recollection of what life was like there.
Consequently, I’m curious about what it was like in Ottawa and in other Ontario cities.

What are the main things that you hated about Windsor?

YARNLADY's avatar

I have exactly the opposite problem. Every place I live feels like home, and I feel bad when it’s time to move on.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Yes, the place I’ve lived for the past 5 years. I used to say I’d move back home as soon as I could afford it but now I have a partner from here. In my dreams I see us moving back to where I’m from but reality dictates we’re here until his youngest child is independent. I respect parents who willing to make do in order to be around for their kids.

Gamrz360's avatar

Canada. Just doesn’t feel like home.

Jude's avatar

@Gamrz360 Bummer. I think that Canada’s wonderful.

Mista_Reflexivity's avatar

Home by Three Days Grace has millions of views on YouTube alone, so yes haha.

Jude's avatar

@Gamrz360 I found it dirty and really, not pretty to look at.

OpryLeigh's avatar

A fw years ago my mum remarried and they sold our childhood home and bought a bigger place. My brother and I were welcome there (my brother still lives there in fact) but it just didn’t feel right to me and so that’s when I moved in with my dad. Since then, I have never really felt comfortable in that house and my visits are always brief.

Nullo's avatar

Rolla, MO. After a series of adventures, we found ourselves living in my aunt’s basement in a self-absorbed little town, where Wal-Mart was the place to be on a Friday night, if you were underage.
We came up to St. Louis for the city’s massive New Year’s Eve party – in celebration of the centennial of the 1904 World’s Fair – and it was like suddenly having your sinuses unblocked.

augustlan's avatar

The city I live in now is not home. I pretty much hate everything about it. My house, though, is home. It’s really weird… this house is the first place I’ve ever really felt that way about. It comforts me in a way no other has ever done (even though it’s old and dusty and falling apart). I’d love to be able to pick up my house and move it to my ‘home’ city.

beccagolling's avatar

hell yeah. I lived in a house full of stress…feeling nervous, uneasy and even scared. Lived like that for a year and a half. It was such a freakin’ hell hole. I’m am very thankful to not have to feel that way anymore.

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