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How do I tell this guy to leave me alone?

Asked by etignotasanimum (3374points) September 29th, 2010

I ride the bus to get to college and normally keep to myself. Today I’ve seen on the bus before came up and started talking to me. He seemed okay at first, but then in the next five minutes of talking to me, he revealed that he’s younger than me (which would maybe be okay), that he skips school on a regular basis, that he’s been arrested, and that he does not know what the word “necessarily” means. He then asks if I’m single and if he could have my number.
While I’m flattered, I have absolutely no interest in this guy, and I see him fairly regularly on the bus. How do I tell him that I want him to leave me alone without upsetting him? I’ve already figured that I could just start reading on the bus, telling him explicitly that I don’t want to talk to him, etc. What thoughts do you guys have about this? I need help!

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Zyx's avatar

Tell him you wish he finds someone he really really likes. All he’ll care about in the moment is not embarrassing himself any further (I should hope) and afterwards he should have something nice to remember you by which also clearly indicates you’re not interested.

Try to be understanding as his discomfort is likely greater than yours. If he get’s out of line hit him over the head with the heaviest thing you can find.

wgallios's avatar

just go “Hey, we’re not friends, go sit somewhere else please”.

Or just bring a guy friend with you one day on the bus as a favor, and introduce as your BF. Do some minor flirting, might work itself out.

john65pennington's avatar

I agree with wqallios. you are going to need more ammunition than you now have. grab a male friend and explain the situation to him. ask him to pretend to by your bf and see what developes. sometimes, guys will just not take NO for an answer. a show of a little power, on your part, just might do the trick.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

What was your response when he asked for your phone number?

etignotasanimum's avatar

I just said, um, I don’t know. I don’t think so. But he asked again afterwards and wanted to know when he would see me again. I didn’t answer him and said I had to leave. He asked for a hug, I said no and walked off. Ugh, it was awful. I’m no good at this sort of interaction!

etignotasanimum's avatar

And this is the first time I’ve ever talked to him! What the heck!

marinelife's avatar

Tell him that you are involved with someone so you don’t give out your number.

Randy's avatar

Just tell him that he’s making you uncomfortable. Be polite but get your point across,

daytonamisticrip's avatar

Just say hey listen you seem like a great guy but your not my type so can you go.
Don’t string him along by saying things like I’ll talk to you tomorrow.

Mista_Reflexivity's avatar

Tell him, “Go away, you’re a creeper.” Unless he loves Radiohead, this will hurt his feelings.

perspicacious's avatar

You are old enough to be developing skills in targeted male extermination. In this case I would say something like I don’t really know you and don’t wish to.

Jabe73's avatar

Tell him you do not want to be bothered with an immature aggressive creeper so tell him to go the hell away or you will get your older brother to pound the shit out of him. I’ve chased quite a few losers like this away from my two younger sisters. Trust me guys like this are trouble. Make something up if you have to.

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