What is holding you back?

Myself.

Nothing…full steam ahead…got the bull by the horns, on the doorstep of destiny and it is now just a matter of time is all. ;)

@Cruiser

Good for you…how’d you do that?

My mental illness.

If not for that, I would be acting and writing.

I have no 5-year plan.

@MissA Worked my ass off for 14 years…now it is my turn!

If everything was as I wished it was, I would not even be here. Seriously. I found this site after my life became a wreck and I googled a stupid question and it brought me here. If it was they way I wanted it to be, I’d be the happiest person alive. I’d be the happy, preppy person I was a while back. I’d be there person no-one could defeat when it came to telling their soulmate they were in love with them and no-one knew love stronger than me. No plans for five years. I can’t even predict my tomorrow. I know me.

Hey ducky dnl, gotta let yourself grieve… (((hugs!))) ...

Finances: I have to be patient to return to work I enjoy and pays much better.

Responsibilities: I have comitted to resettling my mother before I work on things for myself and my partner.

Partner’s responsibilities: He has children from a previous marriage so we don’t feel at liberty to up and move elsewhere until they’re older. I think it’s important divorced parents be local to underage kids.

Oh, I have nothing holding me back. I mean I have school and work, but those things are easily taken care of. I could leave wherever I wanted to, whenever I wanted to, but I’m bound by choice to my current town.

If I were to boil it down, I would have to say myself and some things that I believe. Things about myself and (maybe?) a belief or two that I have had pushed into my head. Or possibly that I have allowed myself to believe and haven’t done the work to counteract the messages.

What would I be doing if I weren’t held down by those things? I would be exercising on a regular basis to get into shape. I would not be wondering whether or not my husband was really “with” me when we’re having sex. Or rather, I could take him at his word when he says it is only me. I would not worry that the work involved in getting in shape would end up without one of the results I need. I would quit feeling like I’m being punched in the stomach every time we watch “Dollhouse.” I would quit being pissed off every time someone says, “Looks don’t matter, what matters is what’s inside.”

A plan? Nothing beyond my therapist appointment on Thursday. And I have a feeling I know what he’s going to say. Even so, I’m going to do my level best to go in with an open mind.

In 5 years? Heck if I know!

Right now, it’s money. Most everything is at a standstill because of a lack of a cashflow. It’s not permanent, I know when the end is near, but it still sucks.

Lack of energy and motivation.

I’m kind of afraid that if I do what I really want to do in life, someone will wind up needing me and I won’t be there to help them, and I would feel guilty for that.

…so I guess you could say that guilt is holding me back.

Right now some physical issues, other than that, nothing.

A life of untreated depression, apparently. But it’s my over-idealism that perpetuates the depression . . . or it’s the world that causes my over-idealism to perpetuate my. . . you see what I mean.

Responsible for two family members with significant issues; one with dementia, the other with a mood disorder. Also having two jobs. If I didn’t have these factors, I’d love to travel, see the world, have fun! In five years I imagine that some of this will be resolved, I can only hope…

Best question I’ve seen on here since I joined….like a month ago lol ;)

as with most of us…MYSELF

Cause even when it was “something else” or “someone else”...that still came back to ME.

what a simple question that has really resonated with me tonight :)

( best question for ME )

I don’t even want to READ these responses…cause so many people have so many EXCUSES.

this topic could GET me, I’ll shut up.

don’t put things on OTHERS though. And I know , some have true true complicated issues

but still, others LIKE excuses and are in the HABIT of putting things on others