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What is the true measure of a man?

Asked by Rarebear (25159points) October 3rd, 2010

Or woman?

Is it how she responds in the face of extreme adversity? How he reacts to those he loves around him?

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judochop's avatar

The true measure of a man or woman is how they treat someone who can do them absolutely no good.
The true measure of a man is what he will do or would do if he knew he’d never get caught.
The true measure of a woman is how well she treats an enemy when no one is around to see her.

BarnacleBill's avatar

How he/she treats old people, small children and animals.

zwingli's avatar

The true measure of a man is his ability to listen and have empathy.

Nullo's avatar

To paraphrase a band whose name I have forgotten, what’s in the heart defines the measure of a man – i.e. his character.

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Neizvestnaya's avatar

The ability to underpromise and overdeliver.

palerider's avatar

the opinions of his friends and family

palerider's avatar

Author unknown, but deserving:
The Measure of a Man
Not – How did he die? But – How did he live?
Not – What did he gain? But – What did he give?

These are the things that measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth.

Not – What was his station? But – had he a heart?
And – How did he play his God-given part?

Was he ever ready with a word of good cheer?
To bring back a smile, to banish a tear?

Not – What was his church? Not – What was his creed?
But – Had he befriended those really in need?

Not – What did the sketch in the newspaper say?
But – How many were sorry when he passed away?

These are the things that measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth

Jabe73's avatar

To me it is almost the same for both genders. Being responsible for your actions, empathy and humility. Your physical differences already seperate the rest. I do not think either gender should be held to higher/lower standards than the other. That’s my take on this.

ragingloli's avatar

Watch the TNG episode of the same name. Then thou shalt know.

Rarebear's avatar

@ragingloli Oh yeah! What was that one about again?

JustmeAman's avatar

Being present and responsible in the present and Now. Being aware of who you are not what you appear to be. We all create who we are by our own actions and we create the world around us to be for us what our reality is. Everyone will create you and who you are to them as you do for yourself.

Joybird's avatar

Let a man and woman be measured by the willingness to combine heresey with integrity in adherence to the drummer within. Measure their ability to sit with cognitive dissonence while growing and flourishing amongst a rabble of those who must rely on the safety of numbers for security thus resulting in their own stunted, spindley and distorted growth.

CyanoticWasp's avatar

IF by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build ‘em up with wornout tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”;

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings – nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run –
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man my son!

yankeetooter's avatar

The true measure of a man is when he has “power” over someone, but never uses it to take advantage of that person, only to help them and encourage them…oh, and what everyone else said too…:)

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