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Should I take this job?

Asked by tedd (14078points) November 8th, 2010

So I was recently dumped by a long time g/f. Its messy, yada yada, I’m really depressed and torn up about it… But this question only kinda involves that. Before she broke up with me, I had been looking for jobs in her city (it was long distance and I wanted to move closer). Well low and behold I applied for like my “dream job.” Its a Forensics job, entry level, doing exactly what I want to do. I’ve spent the last year working in an analytical lab as a tech to build experience, and I’m sick of it and ready to move on.

Well after she dumped me I broadened my job search out to all over the country, but I’m starting to get calls back from some of the jobs I applied for in Pittsburgh (her city). Well just as my luck would have it, the Forensics people called back, they want to set up an interview, and it sounds like they’re really interested.

Its my dream job. But how do I go there? Should I go there? Its the type of job I’d take anyways, but I’d be lying if I said no part of me wanted to move there based on some hope things would work out with the X. But even if I totally rule out the idea of moving there for her, and do it based entirely on the job (which would be the case if it were in any other city), how do I move to a city where the only memories/knowledge of it I have are based on her. Where I would be working literally 2–3 miles from where she lives? I wouldn’t see her if I didn’t try and I’m not the stalker type so I wouldn’t I guess. But just knowing that she was RIGHT THERE, which is something I’ve wanted for like two years, would be haunting.

I feel like fate is kicking me square in the balls, and since I’m already cripplingly depressed over the whole situation, its not helping.

What should I do?

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