Should I tell my fiance that I don't like my engagement ring?

Hey folks,

I have a slight conundrum. My fiance proposed to me a couple weeks ago; although I am thrilled he proposed and estastic that he went through the process of buying a ring, I’m not a huge fan of the ring itself. It’s too simple and doesn’t really flatter my finger.

It’s not a case of him not doing research—he did, but he went about it the wrong way. About a week before he proposed, his mom tried to figure out what I liked by asking me what ring she should get for her & her husband’s 25th anniversary. So I looked at rings with her and chose one… except I really did look at what I thought she would like and what would look good on her, not the one I liked. With that knowledge, my fiance went and bought the ring I chose while talking with her.

To further complicate things, after he gave it to me, I said “it’s beautiful” – meaning the setting he had chosen to propose in and the sentiment of proposing. But he thought I was talking about the ring and blurted out, “I’m glad you like it!” He looked so relieved and happy that I didn’t have the heart to tell him otherwise. We went and immediately got it resized (letting him do that was probably a mistake on my part), and it just came back in. I put it on and have been wearing it since, but the more I look at it the more apathetic I feel about it and the more annoyed I get that he involved his mom in the process (that last part is pretty stupid, I know. I think I’m just bitter that he didn’t ask my friends, because I told him to do so and I made sure to tell my friends exactly what I wanted).

But anyway, should I ask him to re-shop around for one because I dislike it, or should I just suck it up? I mean, the senitment really is beautiful, and I am thrilled just to be marrying him. He told me later that he was glad I liked it because it cost a lot (it did, for him), so he’s already put a lot into it. But then again, feeling apathetic about something I’ll be wearing for the rest of my life doesn’t seem like a particularly enticing idea. At the same time, I just feel like I should be grateful for what I have. Suggestions?

Edited for spelling.