How can I get my 1 year old kitty (male) to be more loving?

Asked by stevenb (3836) January 2nd, 2011 from iPhone

He is a sweet cat, but NEVER purrs unless he is sucking and kneading on his blanket. He doesn’t like to be held, snuggled, etc. He is playfull, but also a bit skittish. He wasn’t ever beaten when he was little, and never abused. Is there any way to get him to be more affectionate, or is it just not in him? I haven’t had a male cat in thirty years, but my first one was very lovey.
He is a very touchy cat, using his paws to touch everything, and playing alot. He almost always just sleeps in a random spot on the floor, not in any comfy/cozy spots. He loves the lazer.

I know I am projecting my desired personality traits on him, but he is so cute, and sweet, that my wife and I would like to be able to get him to sit in our laps and purr to sleep. Any ideas? Am I just out of luck? Thank you!