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She said she wants a break, what to do?

Asked by MD3161 (21points) January 20th, 2011

So here’s the background briefly. I’m 26, male, and have been in a relationship with a girl my age for the last 6 months. I have been on and off with her for the past 2 years however, so we have history, just this time we decided to make it work and be a couple.

Everything was going great. We have had some fights, but conflict is normal in a relationship. So the other night I went out to the bars with my buddies and got pretty intoxicated. I go out drinking every now and then, but haven’t been that wasted in awhile.

So around midnight she calls, I tell her whats up, and I ask if I can come over after. She agrees, and I make it to her place around 1 AM or so. I get there, she knows I’m drunk, we chat for a bit, and head to bed. I then try to put “the moves” on her but she denies me saying we aren’t having sex. I ask “so when can we have sex?” and she says that she’s sober and doesn’t want to have sex with me because I’m drunk. So I argued that I have sex with her when she’s drunk and I’m not (which has happened). I didn’t insult, threaten, or swear at her, and I never have. The argument lasted about 2 minutes and I passed out next to her.

In the morning she brought it up. initially I didn’t remember, but it slowly started to come back to me through out the day. I apologized immediately, and explained by no means would I expect her to have sex with me while I was intoxicated, I guess my drunken self was just hurt by the rejection, which in my sober mind is silly.

The day goes by, I go to work, she goes to work. She then calls me late in the evening and says she wants a break, and doesn’t want to do this right now. She refused to talk to me in person. I asked her toward the end of the conversation when I can talk to her or see her again. This is where I’m confused, she tells me that I can call her anytime, she’s also having a party this Saturday that she still wants me to come to, as well as a work party on Sunday she wants me to attend with her.

So I’m confused. Is this just a fight? Does it seem like something that will blow over? I know I was wrong, but isn’t this a little extreme? I haven’t talked to her for a day now, not sure when i should call her or what to do.

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