In your experience, which happened more often: has good physical intimacy led to a good relationship, or a good relationship led to good physical intimacy?

A good relationship can make you feel very comfortable around someone, which might make sex and intimacy easier to get comfortable with. On the other hand, sex can make you feel comfortable in a physical way, which can let you open up to a person emotionally.

Have you experienced both ways? If so, which happened more often? Do you end up in similar places at the end?

I’ve had both in my life, but it seems to me that physical intimacy facilitates emotional intimacy for me. It usually starts with some kind of intellectual connection, but then, I feel like I let my body decide for me. If I can feel open and myself making love, then I can open up emotionally.

I know a lot of women say they need emotional connection first. That’s why romance is so important to them. I know that a lot of people would say I’m thinking with my penis. But I don’t think so. I suppose this sounds stupid, but I think my penis knows things that I don’t or can’t know.

What’s your experience?