I feel stuck in a life not of my choosing, advice please?

I am a college senior. This is a complicated situation so let me explain. I have Asperger’s Syndrome but wasn’t diagnosed until last summer. Now initially when I went to college away from home I dropped out due in large part to my AS (social demands, poor at transitioning to change, getting easily overwhelmed).

Well eventually I went back to school, a close one where I commute from. But the legacy of my first failed attempt at college follows me. You see I went to community college for 2 years as a science major. When I transfered to big public state university I figured I’d rather murder puppies than take another chemistry class.

So I changed my major to communication disorders, which I love. But because I changed my major a billion times, I could never tell my parents because I thought they would think I was crazy and it was a dumb idea. So now 2 years later I still haven’t told them.

Which brings me to my principal problem. I plan on taking a year off then applying for graduate programs in audiology. Well my parents plan on me living at home the next few years and then living in an apartment nearby where they can check up on me. I don’t want this. I want to move away. Yes, I know it backfired the first time but I now can keep a budget, do the grocery shopping, know how to cook, and can generally take care of things. I feel like I’m still paying for a mistake 5 years ago.

I just feel like I can’t ever really act like myself. Like I will never leave this city, I will never be able to be who I know I am. My parents (divorced) seem to have made all the decisions for me, based on what they think is best for me. But I increasingly feel stunted here. I want them to be happy with me, but it conflicts with what would make me happy. For example, I let my mom force me into a summer job I don’t want (she works there) because I try to avoid conflict. At first I laid out why I didn’t want to do it (it is an exhausting, physical, low-paying job which I’ve done 3 summer in a row), but I always end up caving in, especially when she ended up screaming at me.

But I am just not happy with things, and more unhappy as time goes by. (ignore any financial concerns, this is about the dynamics between my parents and I).