If someone from fluther friend requests you on facebook does it frustrate you when they don't identify themselves?

I’m pretty picky about the friend requests I accept. I don’t do farmville or any of the silly games and use facebook for keeping up with friends. I consider it more private life and fluther more public A few jellies are so special to me that I have included them. That means that a lot of people pop up that we have “in common” because of fluther.
It is really frustrating when I get a friend request from someone who’s name I don’t recognize because it’s different from their fluther name. I hate to be rude and decline the request, but if they don’t include a message telling me who they are I don’t know if I want to include them or not.
Am I a lone wierdo or do others feel this way too? It just bugs me!