Do you think you (or other people you know) would be more freaked out about your (their) kid being queer or being trans?

Generally speaking, people around me here in NYC (my bio family doesn’t count) are pretty accepting of queer folks but still have trouble accepting trans folks. I was thinking about my kids growing up and being gay or trans (my boss just told me her two sons are gay and it got me thinking) and how my family would handle it and I thought about my oldest’s bio-dad and he’s pretty open but then I thought ‘but not about trans stuff’ and wondered what it is about wanting to stay away from or change one’s assigned gender or sex that makes people more uncomfortable than finding out their kid likes to be with the same sex or is bi or fluid or whatever? Do you think it likely that people conceive of transsexualism or transgenderism as MORE ‘against nature’ than homosexuality or queerness?

Just thinking, what are you thinking? Think of your kids coming out as gay or trans? Which (if at all, obviously to many it wouldn’t matter either way) makes you a little bit more scared? Of course the kid can be both gay and trans, just in general. Welcome to my mom’s life – of course she generally ignores that I’m gender non conforming but is a bit more recepting (though not actually supportive) of my being queer.