Relationship question (details and a complimentary, fluffy heart pillow inside)

You’ve been dating someone for a few years, now, it is coming to the point to where you’re going to take it to a whole ‘nother level. You plan on getting married, buying a place together, and possibly starting a family. You love this person with all of your heart; that is one thing that you are sure of.

The person above is me. Why am I scared of taking that next step? I have never been in a relationship like this. It is wonderful. We both love each other very much. In fact, we have both said, “I have never loved anyone as much as I love you” (and we meant it). My past relationships, they have never been serious enough, for me, to want to commit long term. This is all new to me.

My family life is a little discombobulated right now. I have been giving too much of myself to them (emotionally), and I am tapped out from that. I want to start taking care of myself and focus more on my relationship. I need to make that shift. Here is my partner’s response to my family issue:

I completely understand and agree, sweetie. I think you take too much on and expect too much of yourself. You’ve got to take care of you or you’re no good to anyone else.

I think therapy may help you to work on ways to be supportive of your family without taking so much ownership of their fate, also, if that makes any sense.

Any advice?

We’re two lesbians, for those who don’t know.