Husband with no sex drive?

So I’m having issues in my relationship and I was wondering if I could get some insight from you ladies who have maybe gone through this or from a man who can give some advice. I love my husband… He is overall a great guy… We have problems like everyone else but one of our problems I am not sure if I can live with. We rarely have sex…. He has almost 0 sex drive for a 26 year old man. Me and his mom are very close and she told me that hes been like this since he started having sex in his early 20’s. I want to believe the problem is not me.. I know he thinks I’m beautiful and I know he loves me but I don’t know how to just accept being with someone that is only interested in sex once a month if even that… He has self esteem problems. One of his ex’s told him he was bad in bed etc, and he has horrible psoriasis ( scaly-red skin patches—which of course I don’t care about but he does) but I think this causes him to feel like he can’t “PERFORM” well in bed and that he cant “satisfy” me. At least thats what he says.

Anyway, heres the kicker- in 2½ years of being together, we have had 4 MAJOR blowouts over porn. He watches it and then lies about it and tries to hide it. And of course me being a woman, I snoop and find it because he forgets to delete it. So I ask myself “Wow, he has enough sex drive to watch porn, but not enough to be intimate with me…ever?” It HURTS! I mean, I’m not in the best shape ever. I’ve had 3 babies but I dont think I’m ugly. Do I look like those woman? NO WAY… not even close.. I just dont know what to do. We had our final argument over it the other day. I went to the airport to pick up my family… first time hes been home alone in forever and BAM, I come home that night go through his phone and find hes been watching. Keep in mind we hadn’t had sex in about 3 weeks. I told him that it was the last time we’d ever argue over it again and next time, I’m gone. Am I over reacting? What do I do. I feel betrayed each time. He always says its not about the women in the porn, its just about the “act” and as an excuse for not having sex with me, he says he just doesn’t have a sex drive and needs to see a doctor. What do I do ? This is a really serious issue for us. I dont get why he is doing this? Is it me? Maybe I need to lose weight… but then again, I was in awesome shape when we first met and we still had problems. UGH

Also, he told me it has nothing to do with me and he has broke down in tears over not having a sex drive and says porn is just easier sometimes. I DONT get that at all. I’ve never been with a man that has little desire to have sex… ever. Its so weird. I’ve tried telling myself hes just stressed because his job is hard and long but can a man really be too tired to have sex? He always says hes just too tired to have any desire. But he is neglecting me and eventually Im afraid Im going to cheat on him.

Then I wonder if hes cheating but I feel like he doesnt even have enough sex drive to do that lol. He has had ED problems all his life also. He needs to go to a dang doctor but he keeps avoiding it. I dont see when he’d be able to cheat on me. He goes to work and comes home. Not saying its impossible but I just dont think thats whats going on. Can someone please give me some advice? And please dont be rude and tell me to lose weight or something like that .Thanks for reading :)