What was the worst way you found out about a loved ones death?

My wife was bored today, so she went online and began googling funeral homes for her hometown, then looking at the lists of who died recently.
She was shocked to find her foster-father, who died Monday.
No one thought to call and let us know.
So, the viewing is tomorrow, the funeral is Saturday, and we are 2000 miles away. We might have been able to go with a little more warning.

So, what was the worst way you have heard about a loved ones death? Did you see it on television? In the paper? Were you not told for months?
How insignificant did it make you feel?