My husband and his mom?

I have been married to my husabnd for almost 8 years and we have 4 wonderful children. I am a stay at home mom/part time pre-nursing student. My husband works alot trying to support us 9month old 3 yrs,6yrs and 8yrs… He loves spending time with his kids but rarely me. I am very lonely at times since i am always with kids.. Anyhoo, I was talking with my hubby last night about mother’s day and asked him what he was getting me as joking… I don’t want anything… but the topic of his mom came up and it went sour fast. He started saying I was jealous of her and I won’t let him spend time with her or his 14 yr old sister… four years ago my husband wanted to take his at the time 10 year old sister to the amusement park I had no problem with that but he wanted to go with out our son who was four I just thought it was rude and I got upset and now I am jealous yes I am angery but I don’t understand am I crazy or is that weird take your kid aswell, why can’t her parents take her… Then that same year my two oldest kids went to visit and the sister smacked my kid, when I confronted my mother in law she said my son who was four was lying that his sister would not do that,, and my husband so he would hurt his mommy defended his sister and still says he doesn’t know if it happened that little brat hit my kid and got away with it and so yes I hold anger towards them poeple.. and my sons father wouldn’t even stick up for him… Now my husband says I am a bad mom and I don’t deserve any acknowledgement for mothers day I am the mother of his four children…WTF???? And he then went on to say the saying any man can be a father it takes a real man to be a dad… and then said any women can birth children but only a really woman can be a mom… I guess I don’t meet his standards maybe he should have kids with his mom…LOL What do you think I should do??? Now after the fight he says he doesn’t want to be with me cause he can’t spend time with his mom and sister…. cause i am jealous… I’m not jealous I just hate them…Strong words right….