Nsfw? Should a man have to work to please a woman before he takes his own pleasure?

Should a man’s sexual pleasure be contingent on his ability to provide his partner with sexual pleasure? Do you know anyone who shares this attitude? Why do you think they believe it, or why do you believe it, if that’s how you think?

Is it unrealistic to think that most heterosexual men will voluntarily pleasure their partner? Is a woman being pragmatic when she feels that she doesn’t “owe” the man anything until he puts out? If women take this attitude, are men justified in having a related attitude: “I paid for the date, now put out.”

I see this as a kind of commodification of sexual activity. Do you feel like a guy should put out if he expects the woman to put out? Is it necessary to play this kind of game because basically most men will take, take, take unless you force them to give by keeping your legs crossed until you’ve been paid satisfied? Is this a reasonable response to the way the world is? Is it a form of defeatism when someone feels this is the best they can get? Or is it just being realistic?