Are you in a career perceived as antithetical to maintaining relationships/marriage?

So it’s been a couple of months of my PhD program and all I keep hearing is how the work consumes you and you divorce, splat. Aside from the rumor that I’ll ‘never make it’ ‘cause I ‘already have two kids, want a third during my PhD’. And it got me thinking not only whether there are gender differences along who gets that ‘wrapped up’ and gets divorced but what other careers we speak of in a way that makes us think you shouldn’t even get into it if you want to be a ‘family person’.