(NSFW) Guys who have to control during oral?

I’m really starting to wonder if I’m the only one having this issue with guys. I’ve had this issue not just with the guy I’m currently seeing, but a few guys in the past too, pretty much the same deal.

Whenever I go to give him a bj, he starts controlling it all himself by grabbing my head and pushing and shoving down, etc. Usually he pushes too much and I start gagging like crazy and tearing up because it’s literally jamming into my throat, it feels like I’m pretty much deep throating and at warp speed. He’ll sometimes just hold me there and won’t let me move while I’m pretty much choked and then grabs me by the nose. What the hell is that about?? He’ll tell me to “take it all the way” which I can’t, but then he just pushes my head until it does anyway and I feel like I’m gonna freak.

I guess my question is, anyone else have or had this issue with guys before, always controlling it you during a blowjob? Why are they not content to let you do it yourself? And do they not realize when they start pushing a girl’s head down like that it makes us choke and hurts??