I have a neighbor who continues to flirt and invite me over even though he knows that I'm gay and in a relationship. How do I deal with him?

A guy in his 30’s, attractive, seems relatively normal, and would otherwise make a cool friend if he would just lay off the flirting and persistently trying to get me to go over or out for a drink.

He just came back, after a 3 month stint of working out of town. He’s home now (during the day and evening) and whenever I go out to my car, or let my dog out, he comes to talk to me. My partner could tell that he “had the hots” for me when we first met him. He has asked me out for a drink numerous times. Once in front of my partner.

I was just out the other morning at 7 (letting my dog out for a pee) and I caught him checking me out through his bedroom window. I was wearing a robe and nothing underneath (sitting on my back steps with my legs open. I’m such a lady!). I was half asleep, sipping my coffee, when I looked up and caught him watching me through his bedroom window.

I would love to be able to sit in my backyard and not feel as though I am being watched (I rent. Share a large older home with three other tenants. There are 4 apartments in this older home).

I don’t want to cause problems, though. What is the best way to deal with him?

Serious question. It’s creepy.