Why do some black people destroy themselves?

First of all let me say that I am a black person asking this question. Field black vs house blacks, Light skin vs dark skin, acting white vs acting ghetto, hood vs middle class, not black enough, too black- (ie) Miss America Vannessa Williams.- Black churches hating gays and brain washing their masses to hate their own children who happen to be gay; Black sports figures marrying white women when they they attain a certain level of fame, not to mention how black criminals keep prison officals in high paying jobs and large penisons for life. How much longer and how many more ways will blacks unwittingly repeat this self defeating design of control left over from the days of slavery to destroy themselves and each other? Stop handing down self hatred to our children.