[NSFW] Is there an ethical dissidence in this situation involving desires?

A feminist who likes to be dominated in bed by her guy. Inconsistent, or no?

My gut says that fetishes are irrelevant to whether one can consider oneself a women’s rights activist.

But when I think about this situation, a woman who advocates for equal treatment during the day, and then goes home at night to potentially be shamed, punished, and generally pushed around by a man, it seems a little off.

I guess as long as she’s enjoying herself, there’s no real mistreatment occurring. What say you?