What's your experience of the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" cliche?

I call it a cliche but the feeling of loving someone and being in love with them are very different.

If someone that you were in a relationship said that to you, could you accept it and continue in the relationship or do you need your partner to feel more.

Have you lost the feeling of being in love with someone yourself? Or never quite got that feeling in the first place for someone you cared strongly for? What did you do about it? Do you need to feel more yourself to continue a romantic relationship?

Please note, I am not talking about a temporary loss of of that in love feeling, all relationships go through blips. I’m talking about that point where you know that no amount of time or effort (counselling etc) will bring it back but you still care for that person. What do you do then?

I hear this said a lot “I love you but I’m no longer in love with you”. My mum said it to my dad, it was her reason for wanting a divorce. She cared for him and claims she will always love him but there was no romantic feelings anymore and she needed more.

What are your thoughts?