How do you curb your enthusiasm in a romance?

I just met someone really neat. I’m fairly young (early twenties) and this is a new experience for me. He is about seven years older, graduate degree, a good job, sophisticated and raunchy as hell. I know, this has bad news written all over it. But for some reason, I don’t care. It is really exhilarating to meet a man who is mature and shares similar outlooks with me. It is frankly a huge change from the typical college student guys I am use to.

I recall a quote, “I promise to be an excellent husband, but give me a wife who, like the moon, will not appear every day in my sky”. I can’t help but feel like that because now our relationship has evolved from purely friends, this kind of mentality should apply.
This is totally overwhelming. We haven’t even slept together yet. But all I can think about are those hands (!) those lips (!). I am totally consumed, but it feels amazing. I’m a little scared however, for the first time I don’t feel very in control. Also, I kind of like the feeling… But then I think “what if he doesn’t feel as excited as I do.” Maybe he does this all the time.

What should I do? I’ve been friends with this person since I was about fourteen! For years one wasn’t single when the other was, until now. I never worried what he thought of me before. In fact we both know some things about the other that isn’t exactly what you’d want to hear before hopping into bed….but boy do I want to.

We don’t live close. But close enough to see each other a couple weekends a month. We mentioned it rather flippantly, but considering that I am going into an intense masters degree and he has a demanding career, we smiled and it felt like the distance was even a good thing. I had a long term boyfriend living with me during my studies not long ago, and it did feel like a hindrance at times. Before we parted he stressed that I should come to see just him for a few days. I already bought the flight, and I’m going back in a few weeks.

This just feels so new. I’ve never had a man compliment my brains like he did. He was so impressed and enthusiastic about my accomplishments. He is so forthright. He looked right at me and told me how much he liked me, and said that I was exciting. I’ve never felt so genuinely desired, on so many levels.

While this feels wonderful, now that we are apart, I’m not sure how to feel. We never really had incredibly long or indepth conversations online, like we did in person. Nothing has changed with that, although he does send me frequent small messages through out the day. Why do I feel so worried that he might stop? Why suddenly has my enthusiasm made me paranoid. I hate this feeling and even recognise that it is ridiculous. Now I feel like I am over thinking everything I want to tell him. He basically let me know how much he liked my real personality, and now I’m having a hard time not looking into it too much. I am the kind of person that when I feel like I want someone, I need to tell them! Whenever I’ve said these things to him, he appears to love it… But when is it too much? (Mind you I haven’t been doing this long, it all happened about 5 days ago, and I have managed to hold back a little…)
The problem is I feel like I need to express this all the time.

How do you suppress your excitement, enough not to look like a deranged psycho?

How have you dealt with a new and exciting romance?