The consensus on Fluther is men and women for the most part don't want sex on the first date, but both sexes indicate there are pressure from their date?

So both men and women on this site have expressed a preference to wait for sex. OK not all but a large percentage.

They also indicate that they often feel or are pressured to engage in sex on the first date. That people are disappointed overall or uncomfortable by it.

So what is behind the presumption and pressure. Is there a need to prove you had a good date? Or in a society with a laissez-faire approach that we search for something concrete.

Tell me your theories and observations. No one answer will be universal. So the diversity of answers won’t undermine the premise.

Though admittedly the premise is shaky. So feel free to debate that as well.

Also if you are a single dater and prefer to wait for sex. How do you handle the situation where you feel pressured?