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Men: Do you ever get nervous around women you like?

Asked by jordym84 (4752points) August 28th, 2013

Before anyone jumps the gun, I would like to add the following disclaimer: it is not my intention to exclude women and/or gay people from this question. As a heterosexual female, I’m mainly looking for the opposite sex’s input, but everyone is more than welcome to share their insights.

I’ve been dating a wonderful guy for about a month. He makes me really happy and words cannot describe how well we fit together. He’s already taken me to meet his parents and talks about the future in casual conversation.

However, yesterday I found out that he is nervous about talking to me on the phone. I will admit that I hate talking on the phone. So much so that I usually keep my phone on airplane mode so that calls go straight to voicemail, and the only people I ever call are my parents and siblings. I don’t call him all the time, maybe once or twice a week, and I noticed that he never picks up but will almost always call me back within the hour. I hadn’t thought much of it so I never brought it up, but yesterday he told me that he is nervous about talking to me on the phone. We had a very lengthy conversation and he said he can’t explain why he feels that way especially because, in person, we get along so well and we talk about everything and things are never awkward.

It is not my belief that couples have to talk on the phone all the time and the only reason I ever call him is because, whenever we have to say goodbye (he lives about 1.5 hours away), he always asks me to call him whenever I feel like it.

Has anyone else here ever experienced this (either from my side or from his)? If you’ve ever felt nervous around someone you really like, why was it and how long/what did it take for it to go away?

Thanks in advance! :)

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