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Should I delete this photo from Facebook?
My husband and I got married May of last year. We hired a photographer and I uploaded the photos about a week after the wedding – they’ve been up ever since.
One of my husband’s brothers was a groomsman and he was in a relationship with a girl who had a son. They’d been together since the age of 17 and they were 20 at the time of the wedding. There are quite a few wedding photos of Josh’s brother and his girlfriend’s son. The child’s father isn’t around and this kid was even calling Josh’s brother “daddy.”
Well, they recently broke up. Today she sent me a Facebook message asking me to take down a photo of Josh’s brother an her son because it “makes her sad” and she “doesn’t want anyone to see it.” I really don’t want to delete it, so I’m not sure what to do.
On one hand, it’s her kid and, normally, if I had a photo of someone else’s child on Facebook and they wanted the photo taken down, I’d do it. A lot of parents don’t want pictures of their kids on the Internet, and that’s fine. However, that’s not the reason she wants it taken down. Additionally, my page is private and only my Facebook friends can see it.
If I were to delete all of the photos of him and the kid together from that day, I’d be removing about half of the pictures of Josh’s brother as well. It was our wedding, he was in it, and he’s family, so I don’t think I should have to remove it.
If I took down wedding pictures every time someone in that family split up, they’d all be gone. Josh’s brother still sees the kid like he’s his own, so it’s not as if they’re out of each other’s lives. If he was his kid, I’d never even consider taking it down.
I asked my mother-in-law if I should remove it and her response was, “He’ll no! That was your day with Josh. They’re your memories – if that makes her sad, she doesn’t have to look at it.”
I haven’t responded to the message yet. Digital copies are the only ones I have from the wedding and I like for my friends and family to be able to see them. Any thoughts on this? If you don’t think I should remove it, how should I respond to the message?
I know I’m probably going to get a lot of, “It’s just Facebook and not worth the fight. Take it down,” but they’re my wedding photos, not just some random pictures. I’ll need a better reason than avoiding a potential argument with her to remove it.