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Should I address the past or let it go?

Asked by GloPro (8213 points ) February 28th, 2014 from iPhone

So I had a job interview today. If I get the job I will be working with my ex-boyfriend, the only man I ever lived with. It did not end well, was definitely hostile, and we haven’t so much as spoken in 3 years. If I saw him out we would not acknowledge one another. In this job he would be required to interact with me as upper management, I as middle management.

The woman he cheated on me with, unprotected, with it later coming out she had a cureable STD, also would work with me. Her position is lateral to the one I applied to. I have not seen her in 3 years as well.

My question is this: AWKWARD! I know I have moved on, and he is married (to a woman we used to hang out with), so I assume he has also. He is vindictive in nature and an all-around asshole, but he does hide that part of himself at work (we met through working together). Should any of the past be addressed, or ignored all together and we just smile our fake smiles and suck it up?
I don’t know if acknowledging we had a past and we’re both different people now would be beneficial or not.

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