How should we go with judging someone?

I can’t stop thinking about this very issue. I believe I ended up as a truly accepting person. If someone I’m going to be with romantically is a non-believer and lover of art the way I am, nothing else really matters. Of course being honest and caring goes without saying.

I’ve encountered people who seem to be regarding their selections as entities. Looking for some perfect ideal that they’ve created, going through some superficial (in my opinion at least) mental checklist. She/he has to be intelligent, has to know about this subject and that, has to think exactly this about this film, has to explain this eloquently, has to walk this way, has to hold me this way, has to submit to me this way and that way.

Seems to me that if one goes looking for someone or into a relationship with this mindset they won’t ever fully love or give in. It would be unfair for their partners to experience such thing.

My opinion is that we can’t know or control who will come along, and thats the beauty of it. We experience human beings by being curious. We learn and we love. Life isn’t black and white- setting such dead end ideals for one human seems like spiritual death.

And of course it will never exist.

I let my passions drive me, I let the wind take me. I am loving and aware and I think awake in ways many people aren’t. I am curious.

It strongly bothers me how some people are like what I criticized. Can you tell me the reasons for this, and what type of people are this way? And, finally, what you think on the subject?

Thank you :)