How can I deal with someone who is too rational?

Asked by dopeguru (1928) December 22nd, 2014 from iPhone

The question doesnt do much to reality of the situation. I know a guy who doesnt let things happen, always questions other people’s motives and behavior then creates an explanation for it and judges the person. So for example, if he was with a girl he met for the first time and from the girl’s perspective they had a “moment”, a “connection” and the girl physically touched his arm or showed somewhat physical affection he’s conclude it as: she is being sexual but its supressed. She is playing games. She isnt being honest.

Whereas for the girl its going with the connection and feeling and enjoying the moment.

He is this rational but in a very in your face kinda way, as in he gets from point A to B without experiencing in between. Ah. Even worse than that… We were laying in bed just holding each other and he stood and had a 3 hour conversation/q&a about my motives. If my affection is sexual he needs sex, theres no just laying down. Because I “use” him for having my way of sexual satisfaction on my part for just holding him. He thinks theres no romantic side to any relationship, its all sex.

He looks at everything so… I dont even know. He is 30, had one awful relationship where the girl had father issues and used sex as a way to get what she needed.

How can I make a valid argument for someone like this? I want to understand and communicate but I just feel like he won’t get it as he is so practical and not initiative!