When can a child be given freedom?

Especially a girl. In my home, if I ever say this statement that “This is my life course and let me choose the path for myself”. This statement comes as a severe shock to my violent father and he starts saying bad words in response saying girls should never be saying that this is their life. Girls can never be free. They can never do the things they wish to do, can never go and work where they wish to, can never date men, can never marry the guys they choose and so on! Do you think this type of behavior is okay?
And if not okay, what could be done?
And dont you think that this type of repeated behavior often filled with anger and violence on the part of the parents will leave a child mentally, psychologically and emotionally distressed and wanting him/her to rather practice the evil than trying to listen to their parents. Would you care to opine?