Ex never wanted to get married or have kids, gets engaged and has a baby a few months after break up.

Asked by viainfested (435) December 30th, 2015 from iPhone

This is something I never had any sort of closure on or any explanation. I dated my ex for 3 years, the entire relationship he was very set about never ever getting married because it was something he didn’t believe in, he was completely against procreation, never wanted to have a baby, even went so far as to support the Voluntary Human Extincton movement. However, he also didn’t believe in getting a real job and basically leeched off of me the entire relationship. But what I want to know is how… As soon as we broke up, which was somehow very civil, no arguing or anything… 2 months afterward, he started seeing someone else, became engaged to her shortly after, and BOOM! Baby on the way. Why do people do things like this? I’m assuming he just kept going with our relationship even though he didn’t want to because it was convenient for him, and because he didn’t want to put in the effort to end.

It’s been over a year but this is still for some reason bothering me. Like I wasn’t good enough, I still feel used and stupid that I let it go on for so long.. I just really loved him at one point, and just feel kinda cheated. I just don’t understand the reasoning or logic for doing what he did to me, and post break up.

I just would like some sort of advice on the subject.