At what point do you start viewing events as planned or synchronized and not as mere coincidences?

I’m not a confrontational person, so since childhood, whenever I hated someone I would wish for him or her to get terminally sick or die. After learning about evolutionary theory, I expanded my wishes. Instead of just wishing sickness and death to the person I hated, I extended the wish upon his or her kids and family members so that their genetic legacy dies with them.

Looking back now at all the success I had with my wishes, at what point do I stop viewing them as coincidences and start seeing them as synchronized with my wishes? Subjectively, it seems that it works for me. Statistically plausible. Objectively, there is no proof.