Can one love his/her country and nation without hating others? If yes, how do you achieve it in this time, where being a patriot seems so hostile and hateful towards other nations?

I was convinced that being a patriot was loving your nation and equally respecting other ones. However, it seems I was wrong: all those people I know that call themselves patriots and say they love their country and are proud of being the nationality they are are either hateful or at least look down on other nations. They justify it with “I am not hating, I am defending what is mine. These people you accuse me of hating did bad things to my people and I can not respect them for that.” There seems to be so much hostility in ideas called “patriotism” and “nationalism”, it all boils down to “I was born X. It is an honour and a privilege to be an X and I am proud of it.”

It makes me wonder: is there such a thing as patriotism I mentioned in the beginning?

Can you love your nation and it’s culture without hating any other?
If it is possible, how to do it without merging in with the first group?

How to be a non hateful patriot among hateful people calling themselves patriots? How to avoid that “us vs them” mindset?

Is there even a point in loving your nation and your country?

Or am I seeing the whole thing wrong?