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Should I attend my brother's court date to support him?

Asked by josrific (2575points) September 20th, 2016

Last night my brother called me and told me how his soon to be ex wife answered his petition. She said that their children had told her and counselors and even DCFS (dept. of child and family services) that my brother had abused them. How he threw things at them, hit them, threw them down and that he would threaten to kill himself if he lost them. His second daughter actually went into the psych ward for suicidal thoughts and severe depression brought on by his behavior.

He didn’t seem to realize how serious this is. When I was able to get home and tell my husband my brain went “click”. I absolutely fell apart. I could see my brother doing this behavior because he did it to me. Our growing up years my dad would beat my brother and then my brother would hit me and throw things at me. Scenes of years past came barreling into my memories. I just sat and rocked crying that my heart hurt, my heart hurt. I was terrified and I wanted to hide in the closet like I did when I was young. I’ve calmed down, heart still hurts though.

Anyway. My brother doesn’t know about my melt down and he called again today asking if I could go to court with him to give him support. Of course being the peaceful one in the family I told him yes. But I don’t know if I did the right thing. Just the thought of being around family makes me shaky. So in light of my recent meltdown because of memories I thought I forgot, should I go to my brother’s court date and give him support?

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